Addressing people by name

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Yes, I have trouble remembering names. I traced it back to memorization of words; the less familiar I am with any specific word, the less likely I am to remember it. Also, every word I memorize becomes a part of me.
I also have a problem with using titles for people who are "superiors," since I was taught to treat everyone as an equal. It just doesn't feel right to even identify someone as a boss, it's a sign of subservience.

People (especially girls) refer to me by my first and last name, because it's mostly a flirtatious thing, I consider it an insult.

I have a hard time remembering names, and an easy time forgetting them. I try to remember them and use them, because people like it in most cases. It felt weird at first, but it became more comfortable.

"People like to hear their names" - Daniel Ash

I tend to call people by their surname, it’s personal but formal and I don’t want come across as familiar.

I usually forget to address people by name; sometimes, I even forget names. Whenever I'm addressed by my name, I think something's wrong.

I only call people by their name if I'm calling them from a distance. Otherwise, I usually motion to them, or just say "excuse me" or something like that.

I like Hyksos. They were the rivals of the Egyptians for a while after the Old Kingdom and before the Middle Kingdom. I think they actually took Egypt over for a little while around 1700-1800 BC.

Names have ever been a social conundrum for me, as well.
I tend towards wanting to err on the side of being too formal, with "Mr." and "Ms." + last name,
but that comes across as too stilted, I think. So I just try to avoid using names when I can. It seems forced.

I was also struck by this that a couple of you mentioned a few days ago:

I hardly ever use people's names. If I'm trying to get a friend's or peer's attention, I'll say "Morgan" (for example) or "Hey, Morgan,". People often think with the latter that I'm just saying 'hi' though. I don't use anyone's names throughout the conversation.

I can call teachers "Ms. Miller" or whatever, my parents "mama" and "papa" (yeah, weird, I know ///), and a couple pastors by their first names, but other than for those people any way of addressing adults is unnatural to me.

I like when people use my name, with a few exceptions.

I also have a problem with remembering people's names and other normal things. It just takes a very long time for certain things to register for me.

I never really thought about it but I haven't called anyone by name in years, in the human world. I try to avoid socialization at all. Why is there a need to call someone by name if you are looking directly at them, or even facing in their direction? There is no one that I encounter in daily life who I even know the name of other than family members. When I have to do something that requires someone knowing my name and they ask what I preferred to be called, I say I don't care. I probably wont respond anyway. Isn't grunting and pointing enough?

Yeah, never really thought about it but I always did avoid calling people by name when I was younger. I've done it more as I've gotten older and more socially adapt but I definitely still address people by name far less than the average NT and it's something I do think about before doing it rather than doing it unconsciously.