I wish suicide was an acceptable way "out"....

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Wow Great minds really do think alike.

Hello friends. I came across this post and read that many of you have similar feelings of suicide. I wanted to share with all of you my story of how suicide effected me.

Like most of you, I had trouble making friends as a kid. However when I was 10 I met one of my best friends for life until a couple years ago when he committed suicide. We knew each other for 17 years.

Lots of people were very effected by this event. He left behind a lot of people who cared about him. Lots of people believe that no one cares, but that is not true because there are people who would care if you gave them the chance.

I talked to him a couple days before this happened and he didn't seem distressed, although I remember I wasn't in the most positive mood myself. Sometimes it's hard to say the right things because it's impossible to truly know what anyone besides you thinks.

I still think about him everyday and wish we could still hang out. However there is no changing the past. I even had a girlfriend at the time this happened and she ended up kicking me out because I was constantly in a bad mood.

I know I wasn't the only one who was effected. I have also heard stories of suicide causing a chain reaction. One person does it and others question life and follow the pattern.

Suicide is often contagious.

I don't have the best empathy skills and may not be the best at making people feel better but if anyone does want to talk or would like my input you can message me. I like talking to people and I am pretty good at problem solving.

If it makes you feel any better, once a person has DECIDED to kill themselves, you'd never know anything is wrong with them. They've decided to do it and are often content in pursuing that goal. It's the person struggling who gives the warning signs.

People who have DECIDED to go through with it are already in a place where you probably couldn't have helped them if you knew what they were planning.

That does make sense to me. I do think that in some cases people make decisions without thinking about all the alternatives though. It is possible to make a decision only to realize later it wasn't what they wanted. I do understand why some people would do this. I also understand the uselessness of councilling for some people.
However I also believe everyone has potential to live better. The only exceptions for that is if someone is being held captive in some way with no way out.
I have had a lot of problems in my life too and not everything has always been great, but I keep trying.
There is no universal meaning of life but everyone does have their own meaning.

I hope you feel better soon. I've felt that way and it's horrible.

For me it helped a lot to stop living my life for everyone else and trying to meet their standards and " fit in"
That's not always possible, but sometimes it helps to turn an attitude on its head eg instead of thinking " These people hate me, They are mean to me and wont' talk to me. I don't know what I could have done to illicit this response" I start to look at it logically and conclude I've been nothing but nice to them, and their attitude is their problem. So I stop wasting that energy worrying and trying to gain their approval. Spend it on nice people.

Also doing fun things/interesting things for the enjoyment. Simple things.

I'm not sure if this will work for you but I found it helped.
The Dalai Llama said the purpose of our lives is to be happy. Wise words.

Hope you feel better soon.