Anyone else can't handle competitive people

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I'm not really competitive but I know that what you described isn't selfish or someone thinking they're actually superior (whether or not they're better at the game than who they're playing against). I don't know why but it's just what some groups of friends do. You may not like it and you certainly don't have to but I see no reason to call it immature and pathetic, just because you don't understand or like it.
The only time I seem to get competitive is when I know I'm good at a game, so I feel like I have to prove it to the others, especially when it's a game everyone know I play a lot of. As for the trash talk, I do that with other people who I know do it but I could just as easily not.

I believe in winning. I believe in good sportsmanship. I believe in being a civil loser, too, if I lose.

The more concerned I am about winning... the less fun I have, the less concern about winning...the more fun I have. Those hyper-competitive brutes might be good at sports or games, but they're never the sort of people I would like to play with.

it's funny that people who are hyper-competitive, such as athletes, tend to remember their losses much more than their victories, and the losing tends to stick with them much longer than the victory they might of had, it's just that the nature of the universe seems rather stacked against them, 'winning' in life, becomes very deceptive, when you more profoundly remember the defeats, and what drives a lot of athletes to train hard is this perpetual feeling that they're weak or unskillful.... they constantly feel that way and so they're constantly working on those talents, like artist that thinks his pictures all stink, this is precisely what drives him to better himself, so there's no real 'plateau' of victory, one obstacle that's conquered merely leads to another, and then another until you're too old to climb anymore.

It's just hilaurious and sad how deceptive the fruits of life really are, people that are hyper-competitive see the joy in the winning, when the joy was really in the simple pleasure of doing this activity with another person you like.

I get joy amid "the simple pleasure of doing the activity" with people If the person is much better than me at the activity, I try my best, lose, and move on. If I'm pretty good at the activity, I try my best, win or lose, and move on. I don't like to lose---but I don't let it rule my life.

As in, video games? I love the competition in multiplayer or strategy games, but I hate the petty trash talk and bickering because it detracts from the mental element. I try to play with people I already know if at all possible so the game won't get derailed by people trying to one-up teammates, acting out if they didn't get to play the role they wanted, or ranting if their plan failed.