Bully from school days sending your friend request on FB.

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My childhood bully passed away when he was 32. I sent his parents an anonymous "good riddance" card.

The rest of the kids in school just ignored me; neither bullied nor accepted me. If they send me a facebook request, I accept it. I have nothing against them. We just didn't click.

The guy who bullied me in high school with his buddies, I found him on a social networking site and asked him about life etc.

Turns out now he teaches troubled youths Tae Kwon Do, to keep them on the right track. So far so good, right?

Then I asked him if he regrets what he did to me in school, and he basically laughed at me. I was "weird" and he was just trying to "shake me out of it" "for my own good".

If he didn't live thousands of miles away now, I would've gone through some lengths to find him and beat the living s**t out of him. So much for healing wounds... 20 years later.

I did have a few of my bullies send me a friend's request on Facebook a couple of years ago,

One was someone who used to beat me up regularly along with her two cousins in school for no reasons and spread rumours about me. I blocked her because I didn't want her to maybe message me in the future and I wanted nothing to do with her and her other cousin (who was going to the same school as me at the time).

The other was a kid who used to beat me up regularly too because of my disabilities, ethnic background (European and Chinese) and my family roots. He used to yell racial slurs at me. Soon after he sent me a friend's request a few years later, I saw him at the market and he sneered at me. He hadn't changed.

Another was someone who used to be cruel about my mum until I cried probably because his own mum was dying at the time and ostracise me. He kept sending me friends requests until I cut him off. Even the stuff that he said about my mum still brings tears to my eyes many years later.

Last edited by DarkAscent on 18 Oct 2014, 10:59 am, edited 1 time in total.

Oh burn.

My school bullies did not add me but I added them. One of them was a lady who I known since sixth grade. She and I were friends in the beginning until she got the guy that I wanted to date. She and that guy turned out to be vicious gossips and liars. They did a lot of it behind my back during most of my high school years.

I had two of them on there for a while thinking that they would have long gone grown up. It turned out that one of those people had an issue with lying. So I told him not to contact me again.

The other one decided that she got sick of me and blocked me on facebook while going and posting things on his wall
"Do you have her on your facebook? I blocked her from mine."

I found out due to having a second fb page and reported her.

So I don't add bullies to my page because I don't trust them.

I always accept them. Maybe partially because one of the kids who picked on me absolutely mercilessly in middle school turned out to be one of my best friends by the time I graduated high school. Even if they haven't changed, it's always a good time to see how much better I'm doing than them... most of the real a**holes are deadbeat dads now, or have a criminal record, or both.