Do I invite workmates to my wedding?

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In my area, it is pretty common to invite the whole community to the wedding. However, our weddings aren't typically big expensive shindigs. A typical wedding includes the ceremony and a reception after the wedding. The cost per guest is not that great.

One of the more unusual weddings occurred a few years ago involving one couple. As people arrived at church one Sunday morning, they started to noticed a few strangers in the church as well as recognizing a number of relatives of a well known local family. That was a bit unusual.

Then when they opened the church bulletin for that Sunday they found that part of the service included a wedding.

So only the relatives of the couple, the preacher, and the guy who put together the bulletin (one of my brothers) knew about the wedding in advance.

People at work do ask me when I'm getting married and what they will wear to come to the wedding, but I think they are just saying that to be polite and friendly. I can't see anybody actually turning up, even if I sent out invitations. They would probably just look at their invitations and go ''hmm....thank you....I will keep that day free....'' and then just throw it in the bin when they get home, simply because they have better things to do than to attend my wedding.

I think I'm just having a hard time imagining non-relatives turning up to my wedding, because I've never organized a social event before. I've had birthday parties as a child, but my cousins came to that, and they were much friendlier anyway when they were children. I doubt they would come now. Well, the cousins on my mum's side would, but I don't know about my dad's side. I know my aunties and uncles would definitely come.

The people at work are nice to me; they look out for me, chat to me, understand me, etc, but I still can't imagine them keeping my wedding day free, getting all dressed up and coming out to watch me get married and attend the reception after. I mean, it's me, don't forget. Not the extroverted, popular girl who everybody worships the ground she walks on. It's just me. Eccentric, quiet, anxious and stupid.

I would recommend not mixing these different aspects of you life, especially if you have difficulty with the social dynamic.

Are you having a ceremony and a reception, consider inviting just to the reception or some other drinks.

However you may know how you will handle this, so if you really want to do it then go for it. I'd send invites, that is the way it is done in the UK, budget permitting.

As for any social event, and even more so for a wedding:
invite those who you'd want to be there. If there are some collegues you consider to be friends, invite them and leave the rest out of it, there won't (shouldn't) be any hard feelings.