Social Media or No?

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Had Facebook for years, my daughter set up an account in my name when she went away to prep school, but other than keeping in touch with her I rarely logged on, until recently, out of sheer boredom, I started posting random goofy humor and sharing odd news articles in my timeline. I don't see what's so social about it, for the most part, people ignore me like they always have. An old friend and radio mentor passed away this week, if not for FB, I might not have heard about that for quite a while. I don't care for it, it feels like a tremendous waste of time, but lately I have nothing better to do and if I don't keep busy I stress and worry.

Good for you!

I just left Facebook tonight. I'm feeling better already.

There is this thing where you can see who has visited your Facebook page the most.

All you have to do is go to your Facebook profile, click on any grey space and select view page source. Now hold down ctrl and f and type this into the bar. InitialChatFriendsList

You should see a list of numbers. What you want to do is copy the number but leave out anything after the -x Copy the number into the Facebook url like this. https://www.facebook.com/(the number here)

The first 1-3 are probably people who visit your page quite frequently. (Hopefully its your crush and it's not your mom) The next 4-10 are probably those who visit your profile sometimes if they know you irl and just want to see what you're up to.


edit: Actually I don't think it necessarily tracks who visits your page the most it kinda does. I created a fake account called Bieber Bot and had it visit my page 50 times and on another fake account called Mark Donalds , I started a conversation with myself and had it like every single one of my status updates. Mark Donalds became my 1st result while Bieber Bot was still at the bottom of the list.

So it doesn't track who visits your page the most. It tracks the most interaction with someone like messages, likes, shares, photos tagged etc. But chances are whoever is liking your photos and liking your status updates is actually visiting your profile so it kind of does track who's visiting your page.

Plus im sure the list only includes your friends. Anyone who isn't your friend is immune so they can stalk you all you want and you would never know it. I'm gonna try that though just to make sure.

I have the twitter and the FB.

I use twitter each day looking for news. It's fastest and I can see what's up in more detail

FB I check about 1x a week. I went through a phase of using it much more often about a year ago but that was just a phase. I stay on it as a couple friends ask me to.

I don't have any of that stuff - maybe I'm paranoid but it always seemed creepy and Big Brother to me, broadcasting your private business all over the place and as mentioned above, people can track what you've been doing. I know people more computer literate than me can still do so via a regular server, but hell, with these social media sites its actually an inbuilt function. I like to keep things clean and streamlined, too, and social sites always seem to be a messy side of life. I did think about getting onto Instagram, as photography is one of my interests, but unfortunately it doesn't seem to be about photography, it seems to be a popularity contest/beauty pageant for the people taking the photos. Is there an upside to Facebook?

No there's no upside to Facebook. I thought it would be good for relatives that live far but really you're better off texting or calling them.

I signed out of FB today and deleted the app from my tablet. I just came to my limit and realized how depressing FB is. I spend so much time obsessing over past people and past events and looking at pictures of other people I never could make connections with in real life. I also have a lot of "friends" whom I should just delete.

There really is very little upside to FB. I didn't delete my account, just signed out. I don't have my password memorized and am too lazy to get it and sign in.

I felt so much better after I shut out of it.

But because it's April and I know enough about ASD to be fed up with LIUB and puzzle pieces and "fake" awareness, I had been posting videos about every other day or so made by people with ASD or by their parents. One thing was an article. It was depressing because only like two of the videos and the article got any likes and even then it was a total of four likes and one share. Don't know if people just don't like me or if they just didn't want to hear what was in the videos. I got the impression from the pattern of likes that most people liked the "real" autism videos and article the most, those about very severe autism.

I had quit Facebook for almost two years. I recently reopened an account and immediately regretted it. It's too much. I overshare or become so anxious about being judged that I communicatively shut down. Twitter is slightly better, but ultimately ends the same unless I treat it as an RSS news feed rather than a social platform.

My biggest problem with any form of social media is paranoia. There's so much underhanded passive-aggression that it seems like people are subliminally mocking you at every turn. It really begins to make me feel crazy until I can confirm that it's not just my anxious imagination -- and once it gets confirmed in just a few cases, I'll begin to wonder about everybody -- and then actually go crazy.

Ugh.

I don't do any of it and never have. I started using the internet some years before it all took off and I always regarded my real life to be separate from my online one, when I started using the internet the most important thing was for you was to guard your personal information and be weary of what you put out there so I was pretty immediately hostile to the idea. I always felt like social media sites like MySpace and Facebook were way too prideful and braggadocious of own's own personal life, like it was a competition and that has always made me uncomfortable. I always figured, yea sure I'd do social media when I have a life worthy of broadcasting.

Agreed. Eventually, I tried to do it myself, and I was quickly shouted down for it. Yes, I had it coming, but there was such a double standard.

I'm pretty sure this one girl has been stalking me on Facebook. When you view my profile assuming you're not my friend, the first status update that comes up is. Went to Walmart and bought som cigarettes. It was a joke status update. And this girl iv'e been talking to comes up to me and says you smoke?! I'm like no.

I like facebook because it helps me keep in contact with family that is far away that I never see. I never have used Twitter though. With Twitter I think I would be afraid that I would say something controversial and it would get shared everywhere and people would get me fired from my job and threaten to kill me.

Sounds like a keeper

Where did she approach you anyway? At the actual Walmart you went to?

Maybe you could post "Walmart, in the parking lot, 5.00pm Saturday" and see if someone turns up...

Personally I am quite addicted to facebook mainly for keeping in contact with friends but I can't resist stalking profiles..

Anything else not really...

My life probably would have been a lot easier if I didn't ever use Facebook or Twitter. Although technically my first social network at age 12 was AIM. I actually miss that one. It was easier than using kik on my cell phone.

Yep! I've had that experience with it too. It's actually not paranoia, it's hypervigilance.

http://www.bullyonline.org/stress/ptsd.htm#Differences

The thing I hate most about social media is the phoniness of it. Passive aggression is a huge part of that. I think FB in particular is an ideal environment for passive aggressive people. They can hide their true motives behind cutesy status updates and photos, while they continually stir a lot of s**t behind the scenes.

I can't stand all the "look how great my life is" type of updates people post. When you know in reality they have a lot of problems they are not talking about.