Unable to Trust my Friends After an Unpleasant Incident

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OP, I think you're better off going to these kinds of events by yourself. I go to concerts by myself all the time and I have fun without anyone to accompany me. I find that friends don't take the time to accommodate and try to make it to my schedule, yet I try to accommodate and be on time for them. So, I stopped caring about having friends and just enjoy myself. It's much easier to plan things by yourself since you don't have to worry about someone being late, or if they want to do something before the event that will slow you down. You can go on your own terms and be on time since you would be able to control whatever you need, and don't need, to do and still go early.

I mean, there will be friends who will be considerate of your needs too. Those friends are just very, very hard to find. I forget how the quote goes, but it's something like, "You may go through hundreds of acquaintances before you find a good friend".

I always liked going to concerts alone because I could focus on enjoying myself more and not have to worry about the logistics of meeting up with people. Plus if the crowd is friendly, it is easier to meet new people when you are alone and not with a group (if you want to do that).

I don't think it's a good idea to go to a concert by myself. Some small concerts, like a local rock band in a beer garden playing energetic crowd-pleasers, are pretty friendly. Latin bands in a bar are fine too; salsa dancing practically begs people to mingle around and dance with new people. But bigger, more popular (read: crowded) concerts are breeding grounds for violence. Definitely not a safe place for an aspie man to be alone.

So I suppose that if I want to see a concert or another event with my friends, the only choice is to go expensive events that you have to pre-pay for online. Like through Ticketmaster or something. (That concert we missed was pay at the door.) In our capitalist society, a risk of monetary loss is a great motivator for people.

Ah, I see. I've never been to a concert where you pay at the door. I go to concert venues where the ticket is pre-paid by buying them online at Ticketmaster or Live Nation. These are one-night concerts where the music group or artist flies to the city on a tour for one night, where I'm anticipating this artist for months. I didn't know the concerts you went to required social interaction, which I guess would make sense at bars with live music. The ones I go to, I just either watch the concert or make small talk with someone next to me.

But it's still inconsiderate of them to blow off your concert night. It's good that you are more forgiving of them by still hanging out with them for other things that are not as time-sensitive.