What Kind of Social Life Do You Want

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Another thread (sort of a bummer one) brought up mild hypothermia as an old wives' treatment (people find the French equivalent pretry distasteful) but yeah, one reason for my pseudo-rastararianism is to hasten winter, my dumb hypertension and social anxieties go out the window when the world shuts up underneath a few feet of snow and ice. Some of us are basically extremophiles. It's hard to get one's fill of what amounts to an absence of molecular friction.

I feel a lot more serene with snow around me as well, and I generally prefer feeling brisk and dry as opposed to sticky-humid and overcooked. Just thinking about snow relaxes me.

I've got low-blood pressure (slightly anemic), so winter makes me want to sleep in a little more in the morning. I'm not much of a morning person to begin with.

Maybe my adaptability to the cold has something to do with me being part Lithuanian, I know it's very cold over there.

Guess I should have checked family - yeah, I need to go meet my Norsk cousins when I find the time and cash. A lot of my friends are 1st generation european-americans I hope I can bring along. As much as I enjoy learning languages and challenging drives, I'm really spacey. Just found out I'm part Switzerdeutsch/Bavarian. Finally I can get a vintage Porsche for winter driving and act totally reasonable!

The only one I feel really close to is my girlfriend & she's about all I really want thou I do like seeing my family occasionally & I wouldn't mind having a friend around here I can talk to & hang with.

family, friends, a real relationship

pretty much what everybody wants

I'd like to finally have some friends, close ones or a very romantic loving relationship. I don't need to be the life of the party but I'd love someone to share deep conversations and explore life with as a team but I'd settle for one or two close friends.

I usually want a small, connected group of people in my life- my family, friends, and my boyfriend. Currently I have what I refer to as friends, but they are not close enough to me to suit that social need. I want a friend who will write me a letter to find out how I am doing, send me a text to ask me to go out for lunch or coffee or to do something fun. A friend who will support me and challenge me gently with understanding and empathy. I always wanted one or two of these close friends. Socially, I would rather if my boyfriend were my husband because I would like him to be included in my family tree and to share his last name.

Something else I want in a social life is to be part of a community, to volunteer for missions I value. In the past I have been part of a Church, volunteering in many different ways, one including Vacation Bible School, which meant a lot to me and I felt at home with this social life. As things go, this "relationship" was not sustainable and I moved on. I also volunteered at an elementary school library which was a social life I felt mattered. I love books and I enjoyed reading them to children on occasion. Reading is fundamental!
One year I volunteered at Vermont Adult Learning and I supported the values of their mission. I do not know where to be now, so my social life feels almost meaningless, I feel I should be doing something more important and caring about more than just those who love me. I want a social life of purpose, understanding and kindness. I want to learn and grow among others.

I think living with a roommate that would be a friend and exclusive sex partner would be a perfect situation. I don't like love-dovey stuffs so a romantic relationship wouldn't fit me well but I wouldn't mind having someone to share a flat with(but live in separate rooms and sleep together only sometimes) and hang out occasionally.

I think I would have better life if I had a friend living with me that could just say "I'm going to the city, wanna join?", or "Got anything planned for tomorrow? No? I'm would like to blah blah blah. How about that?".

My social life is poor because I find it hard to plan things(I try to consider everything and I get anxious) and once I plan something I want it to go exactly as planned. Everything seems like a big deal - before I met someone I need to consider when and where we are going to met and how I am supposed to get there and how I get back home. It's harder than the whole meeting itself. If I were to go out with a roommate I wouldn't have to plan where we are going to met and how I get back home because we leave and return home together.

If someone just shows up in the door of my room and tells me everything is planned and I can join if I want I am usually happy to go. Assuming I expect him to be around (which is sure thing about a roommate) and I can decide go or not go and have a few minutes to prepare. I might even offer to join myself when hearing sounds meaning the friend is preparing to go out somewhere.

I'm more of an introvert... I prefer a few close people only. I chose family, close friends, and a romantic partner w/sex.

I'm updating mine, I don't really care if I have friends or family, regardless of the level they're currently being filled. All I want is a relationship at this point.

I only want/need my husband and children. I am indifferent to the rest of the world. My interaction with immediate family is instigated and maintained through their efforts, not mine.