Top 6 Reasons You Have No Friends.

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Top 6 reasons you don't have friends:
1. You're an aspie.
2. You're an aspie.
3. You're an aspie.
4. You're an aspie.
5. You're an aspie.
6. You're an aspie.

But I do, although I tend to forget, the farmer and his son on the other mountain, I help them out, they help me out and we can talk easily an hour without putting hierarchies in place. But it's activity related we don't mingle in private life.
I heared them being called "sauvages", because they don't keep up much of a socialising lifestyle.

7. You participate in those stupid counting threads!

This post has been inspiring to me. I don't really want friends, unless they are genuine friends who I can somehow connect with in a natural and honest way. I have two of those, and they live in a different place now. But, living constantly around people whose lives seem to be largely centered around having many friends who are also highly connected to others, I do sometimes get discouraged. My family was this way growing up; I have often found myself surrounded by such people at work. The difference in our respective sets of values becomes apparent when we get together for extended periods of time (say, longer than for dinner). That is all good and well; to each his/her own. Still, it is somehow good to hear from others with an orientation similar to my own.

My mom does not allow me to have friends.

My sister is a b***h and she ended her only friendship a few days ago.

My mom forced me and an old friend to go our separate ways when I was 18 because she thought he was gay. To this day, my mom has never apologized about it.

My sister and my mom both get paranoid when I say that I will bring someone from a class over to our home.

My sister has a bad case of both ageism and ableism.

I keep to myself alot.
I'm shy & quiet.
I say the wrong things or say them the wrong way.
I look unfriendly or uninterested.
I have few interests & don't readily talk about em.
It takes me a while to open up to people offline.

You know, we really do have a lot in common. I wish I could have met you.

[quote="darkphantomx1"]1. You come off as unfriendly and you're an as*hole to others.

Yes others (rightly or wrongly) told me I had numerous flaws. Such as "you don't care about anyone except yourself!". No one thus far told me I was "unfriendly" per se. But maybe they thought it. And I was not totally friendly at all times


2. You come off as strange and odd to others.

Yes but I also feel like I am strange and odd to myself

And what is so bad, inherently, about being "strange and odd"?

It is just bad because it is inconvenient to deal with differences


3. You hardly talk to anyone.

Yes but when I talked to someone, they often told me off or otherwise socially rejected me


4. You never initiate to be friends.

Too many traumatic social rejections

When I tried to "initiate to be friends" someone told me off. For example when I was 14 I made the mistake of asking a classmate what time basketball practice ended and she snapped "none of your business!" At me

And now I am 34 and still remember it

While numerous precious lil "people" had the nerve to ask me "are you a boy or a girl" and I did not tell them off

Although maybe I was wrong as usual. Maybe I should have told them off


5. You simply haven't met the right people yet.

Could be

But I am 34 so that sounds hard to imagine




6. You don't want any friends.

It's not that I do not want friends

It's that fear of social rejection grossly overpowers greed for friends

Social rejection appears, to me, to feel a lot more intense, for a longer time, than having friends

And when I had friends, they sometimes dumped me when they , rightly or wrongly, told me I did or said something wrong

When I thought what I did was not wrong

Or at least was not large enough to justify their response

Where I'm at, people tend to prefer friends whom are well connected and financially successful.

I'm neither of those so I exist on the outskirts of the social scene.

3. You hardly talk to anyone.

I'm guilty of all of these except maybe 1 and 6. I have some friends, though, because I met other people who fit this list like me !

7. You just don't desire them.
You can live your life without friends, our ancestors did it.