Longing for belonging?

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Yes, mostly fit in. Thanks for the encouragement and thanks for the replies everyone.

I do also get the point about fitting in as being a double edge sword. It can be difficult finding the right balance between being yourself and yet fitting in with the prevalent group ethos.

Haha I hope so! That would just suit me perfectly:) The only really long-term friend I have (don't see him much anymore, once he started secondary school - he was more of my little brother's friend) was also an aspie - I felt so comfortable around him! Is that how non-aspies feel around each other, I wonder...???
lol if such a group is ever to exist, we'd have to be the founders! How about this one? "The Weirdo Forum" :p
The only place I feel perfectly normal is online - cyber-world is my refuge

I feel like I don't belong either, everything been a struggle for me my whole life.

I've been confused by this again listening to people who describe the feelings of "belonging," unanimously positive ones. I can understand the concept, but I cannot feel any of the things they're describing, certainly not any kind of pleasure. It simply is what it is. The emotional content is missing for me completely. I have a sort of emotional blindness/alexithymia and don't require (or even understand) the emotional comfort people seem to derive by this kind of acceptance by another group of people. There are groups I share common traits/problems/interests with that I can relate to the information they relay and it benefits me to be associated with the group (helps curb dangerous behaviour, exposes me to information I can use, teaches me about how other people operate) but any kind of emotional response is either not present at al, or I can't understand/perceive it. Which is a shame, as it seems to be such a big deal for other people, I'd like to be able to experience it myself.