Neighbor being short with me

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Little mama used to be very nice to me and we went out to dinner once. She also invited me to a show and I had other plans. I am wondering if she isn't still mad that I didn't join her.

When I tried to tell her earlier this evening I had intended on inviting her since another aspie, who lives in the neighborhood got invited. I told her what I was up to and before I could go any further she cut me off with "Well good luck merry christmas" and then was rather cold by storming off to the car. I felt like I had been petting what I thought was a nice cat only to get whapped with her claws.

She drove off really fast like she was mad.

I hope my impression of this scenario is true--that she was in a hurry.

She may have been freaked out that you don't celebrate Christmas and are therefore probably not Christian. A lot of people (in America, anyway) equate being non-Christian with immorality and even criminality. If that's why she ran off, then she's a small-minded twit.

Oh Little Mama is not a believer at all and is very secular.

I celebrate another big holiday at this time of year.

If I were in your neighbour's shoes, it's likely that I'd have been bored with the conversation and decided to cut it short. There's no anger involved, just don't feel like carrying on with it.

Then I'm going to say she wanted to get out of the rain and was busy/stressed out. I wouldn't dwell on it unless she behaves similarly the next time you see her. Even then, it might have nothing to do with you. I certainly don't see that you've said or done anything outrageous - not that I'm a reliable source for what constitutes normal social interaction.

After reading the posts...both the original and the responses...I think some people were on the right track. People will ask you, "How are you?" without really wanting to know the real answer. Want someone to never ask that question again? Tell them that you have a really embarrassing medical problem...they are not expecting a real response, just a simple "fine thanks for asking". Your neighbor may just be asking for the sake of being friendly...and maybe giving her the information you gave her was more than she was asking for.
IDK..I never like asking those kind of questions..because I never cared to hear the answer.

I've given up on trying to figure out why people do what they do. Maybe she's completely crazy. She could be on drugs. She could have been in a hurry. You could have done something else recently she wasn't happy about. She might have thought your response was weird. Maybe she thinks you are weird.

Maybe she just has problems that you will never be able to figure out that have absolutely nothing to do with you and she didn't even realize she was being short with you.

Maybe she wanted you to invite her over to your gathering and then decided you weren't going to and got mad that you had brought it up and not invited her. You shouldn't bring up a party you are throwing to people who are not invited, as it can make them feel left out.

If you were planning to invite her, you should have opened with the invitation so she wouldn't have time to conclude you were just bragging about your plans while she had none.

One might if money was a problem, and they were feeling at odds with what they wanted to buy, what they were being asked to buy, and what they could afford.

However, in this case I think Krafiekortie is right. She felt she needed to be/get to somewhere else. People get very stressed over the Christmas holidays.