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Misanthrophy_guide203
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23 Feb 2016, 9:05 pm

hurtloam wrote:
I don't know if this stems from growing up in a country that I wasn't born in( I was bullied at school for being foreign) or whether this is to do with aspies traits that make me an outsider.

I don't know if I just feel like I don't belong or if people genuinely don't like me. It's like I feel dissasociative (I don't even think that's a word) but even when I'm around people I feel alone like I have no one to stand with me and support me when I face new situations.

I don't trust people l. I don't believe they really like me. Especially not single men
I always think they will recoil in horror or make fun of me behind my back if they ever found out I had feelings for them

I am a mess.

Anyone else.


I relate, I don't trust people and even when in a place more accepting than the last I still am paranoid and feel like the odd one out, if anyone gives me praise or compliments if goes in one ear and out the other, I just see any new person I come across as a someone who wouldn't bullied me at School even if I didn't know them back then (doubt that makes much sense)!



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24 Feb 2016, 11:24 pm


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01 Mar 2016, 4:41 am

I belong out in the sticks in my tin can, that is as close as I've been able to get, in this world, to a niche.



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01 Mar 2016, 5:25 am

I often felt that i was on the outside looking in. Even watching my sisters with my mother, I felt on the outside.

Now i feel part of my own family, me and my kids. I don't bother with anyone else, except my sisters who I
rarely see due to us all having different schedules.



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01 Mar 2016, 8:41 am

I don't know if there's anything wrong with not feeling any pressure at all to fit in, especially not to make friends. Methinks that this narrowness amongst aspies allows us to develop passionate friendships where we have mutual interests and strong trust. I can't stand to be around people who I don't have a strong connection to. It's hard to find someone rare.



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01 Mar 2016, 1:25 pm

Noura4eva wrote:
I often felt that i was on the outside looking in. Even watching my sisters with my mother, I felt on the outside.

Now i feel part of my own family, me and my kids. I don't bother with anyone else, except my sisters who I
rarely see due to us all having different schedules.



That's good I never felt like I belonged with my family. I consider my girlfriend part of my family now & i do feel like I belong with her.


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01 Mar 2016, 3:27 pm

I do talk to my 2 sisters on the phone about many things, and consider them best friends. I see 1 every couple of years and 1 maybe 2 or 3 times a year and I am satisfied with bi monthly or even monthly phone calls.

I see 4 of my 6 kids daily as they live with me, I see 1 bi weekly sometimes more and it can be a strain, and I am relieved when he goes home.

I see my other daughter maybe 4 times a year and that can also be very stressful and I am relieved when she goes home.

They are all great kids.

Although I love them all dearly and worry about them.

I feel part of my kids when they are here, but in situations with their significant others, I feel very much on the outside and this is in regards to my kids and sisters.