Do you think my friend was stupid doing this?

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Summer_Twilight
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21 Aug 2016, 1:11 pm

Because he was rude to her before.

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21 Aug 2016, 1:24 pm

My friends intention is to be nice to her again

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21 Aug 2016, 1:52 pm

Yes and that is a good sign. However, when the other party has been rejected they can feel resentful. I had a similar experience where someone and I re-connected for a few months on fb but I didn't feel good about it because she wasn't a good friend. So I got some advice to let her know that I didn't think we were a good pair who seemed to bring out the worst in each other.

So a good year and a half I emailed to say hello and see how she was doing and she didn't want to hear from me.

As I also stated, the guy who I cut out of my life last December didn't want to talk to me either during a convention. Yet i kept a good distance from him.

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21 Aug 2016, 2:45 pm

Jamesy wrote:

My friends intention is to be nice to her again

Well how rude was he exactly and was it intentional, if so why should she accept his 'niceness' so he can be rude to her again next time he's unhappy with her. At least that may be how she feels, even if he really does have good intentions and regrets his rudeness. I mean sometimes when you f**k up interacting with someone it can't always be repaired and one has to just move on and try not to repeat it with different people.

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22 Aug 2016, 6:25 am

Sweetleaf wrote:

Jamesy wrote:

My friends intention is to be nice to her again

Did I tell you recently she waved at my friend from a distance?

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22 Aug 2016, 8:03 am

Obviously, there's still resentment on the part of the woman.

I think your friend ought to go on to someone else, frankly.

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22 Aug 2016, 9:49 am

Jamesy wrote:

Sweetleaf wrote:

Jamesy wrote:

My friends intention is to be nice to her again

Did I tell you recently she waved at my friend from a distance?

No you left that out thus far...it does kind of change things if she glanced at him and waved, as most would take that as a friendly gesture. Initially you said she only glanced at him and he took that to be friendly after their last interaction was him being rude. So which one is it?

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22 Aug 2016, 9:51 am

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Obviously, there's still resentment on the part of the woman.

I think your friend ought to go on to someone else, frankly.

I would probably have resentment for someone if they were very rude to me, I certainly wouldn't want to have a friendly chat with them if I randomly saw them again and would probably hope they don't talk to me in that case.

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22 Aug 2016, 10:04 am

Sweetleaf wrote:

kraftiekortie wrote:

Obviously, there's still resentment on the part of the woman.

I think your friend ought to go on to someone else, frankly.

My friend was rude to her because she had a history of harrssing him

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22 Aug 2016, 11:08 am

Jamesy wrote:

My friend was rude to her because she had a history of harrssing him

It sounds like your friend is a glutton for punishment.
I would suggest that he move on from her for his own good,
get a little bit more self respect,
and find people who will respect him in turn.

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22 Aug 2016, 1:15 pm

Jamesy wrote:

Sweetleaf wrote:

kraftiekortie wrote:

Obviously, there's still resentment on the part of the woman.

I think your friend ought to go on to someone else, frankly.

My friend was rude to her because she had a history of harrssing him

Well how about you post the full story with all relevant context and then have people analyze it next time.

That said if he was rude because she harassed him, why would he want to go up and talk to her if he sees her? I certainly would not want to interact with someone who harassed me to the point I rudely ended the last interaction with them. Is he trying to invite trouble into his life...best to move on from people that bring out the worst in you.

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22 Aug 2016, 1:15 pm

the_phoenix wrote:

Jamesy wrote:

My friend was rude to her because she had a history of harrssing him

It sounds like your friend is a glutton for punishment.
I would suggest that he move on from her for his own good,
get a little bit more self respect,
and find people who will respect him in turn.

^this

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22 Aug 2016, 4:36 pm

She doesn't sound like a good friend if she harasses him. It sounds like it pushed his buttons.

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22 Aug 2016, 5:24 pm

Sweetleaf wrote:

the_phoenix wrote:

Jamesy wrote:

My friend was rude to her because she had a history of harrssing him

It sounds like your friend is a glutton for punishment.
I would suggest that he move on from her for his own good,
get a little bit more self respect,
and find people who will respect him in turn.

^this

She recently waved at my friend a month ago. It was when he encountered her a year ago in the same park was when she didn't wave.

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22 Aug 2016, 8:45 pm

Jamesy wrote:

She recently waved at my friend a month ago. It was when he encountered her a year ago in the same park was when she didn't wave.

* waves ... and with a mysterious facial expression, vanishes from this thread, in a piercing flash of white light typical of a member of the Q Continuum ... *

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