Are you very shy?

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As a teenager I was very shy. It was not about socializing with peers, as this was entirely out of the question, but about such things as making a phone call or going to the store. For example, when I was 16, I was supposed to call a computer repair shop to ask about their hours. It took me nearly 2 months to do that, while I tried to convince my mother to do the call for me, or at least write down what exactly I should say (she refused). My mother was worried that I would not manage on my own as an adult, and it gradually became clear to me that in order to live an independent life I would need to fight the internal "enemy" that was holding me back. In my college years I started a big effort that I call "the war on myself", which, among other things, included many projects intended to overcome shyness (including, for example, developing a lower, more confident voice). At age 25 I flew away from my parent's nest, straight into another country, and survived. In social situations, well, I'm still quite shy - I usually limit my participation to answering questions that others ask me. One-on-one conversations sometimes work, even with strangers. I never really belonged to any social group, other than my extended family, so I am not sure how this would feel.

I am only some-what shy.I'mlike that around new peeps,but once we get to know them better it's not so bad.I am really quiet though.

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I was shy when I was born, and until I was about 10 years old I think. Now I am just trying to be myself, I wouldn't describe myself as "shy". I have more of a general nervousness and anxtiosness (what's the difference anyway...?)

I have this "filter" that makes me think before I talk, and I usually end up with analyzing everything I want to say, and I decide that my topics/views/words aren't important enough, so I just stay silent..

A few months ago, I noticed an absolutely adorable boy exit the L (public trans. elevated train) stop near where I work one morning. I couldn't believe it; it was seriously one of those "heart-flip" experiences. To make a long story short, I started to see him with some regularity in the mornings, first at the work stop, and then, with increasing frequency, on the train itself. I figured that he must live somewhere close by me, because sometimes he'd already be on the train when I got on... Everything about him (physically, at least) "clicked" for me. Now granted, this guy *may* have turned out to be a complete jerk, stupid, ignorant, intolerant, smelly, etc. On the other hand, he might have been a total sweetheart, smart, and funny to boot.

Regardless, I'll probably never know, because not only could I not get up the nerve to say a single word to him, I could barely even *look* at the guy full-on because I was too scared to do so!! ! Once again, my horrendous social phobia/shyness killed something before it even had a chance. The punchline is that the guy kind of suddenly stopped appearing on the train in the morning; I haven't seen him in almost a month, now, and I have my doubts that I'll see him again...

i'm shy in a sense where if I ask for help, I am scared that I will be rejeced, or yelled at.
I am also timid where I cannot answer a question thinking that I will be wrong making my condidence feel shot down for a little too long. When I am instructed to do something by surprise, I catch this feeling of guilt and regret feeling I screwed up in judgement. I no longer break down in tears, but I do show self-anger and can take some time to shake it off, before it took a little longer.

So all this contributed to my shyness for such a long time. Fear of being...

Yelled at, Corrected, Rejected, Instructed with an assertive tone.

I'm not shy. I just don't like being around people too much as it sends my senses loopy and I feel hemmed in after a bit. I prefer being with one or two people, or by myself. I don't have trouble talking to people I don't know at all - how else would I find out if someone was worth talking to? Most just don't seem very interesting - too conventional, or wrapped up in crap like Big Brother or who did what with who where. Maybe that makes me arrogant, but can't say I'm too bothered really. As for being talked to like I'm stupid, patronising me is the quickest way to find out I'm a lot stroppier than I look.

I am shy, but was not that shy before hand. Depends on who I am talking to.

I am shy around new people. However, I can be down-right extroverted and loud often with people I know well (though I also have many quiet moments, too). I suppose it depends on a rare mood of extroversion, but for the most part, I am fairly shy and nonassertive (I'm slowly working on my assertiveness training).

I'm not shy, but sometimes I choose not to say anything- and that can lead people to believe I am shy. If I have something I wish to say, I do not usually have any hesitations about saying it.

I am not shy rebelliously. I feel so afraid of being rejected, I feel so naked. So like some people strike out in anger, i strike out in socializing. Occasionally i'm like, "Hi everybody! How you doing? I'm a social invalid ^_^."