02 Mar 2018, 4:29 pm
Marknis wrote:
smudgedhorizon wrote:
What did you say? NT guys always say sth stupid...
I just told her hi and asked how she was. I don't say stupid crap like "Someone call God because Heaven's lost an angel!" which a lot of NT guys in my area do.
I sometimes fear that friendships are becoming a thing of the past. People seem to just want to stick to the social circles they already have and aren't interested in making new connections. I didn't make any solid connections in my developmental years and I feel so far behind.
NTs are not always the best at forging new relationships either. They just better recognize when someone (another NT) wants to have a relationship with them. There is a saying "Your friends have more friends than you" There are people out there that are super frienders. They are good at getting people to be their friends and have more friends than most of their friends.
The difficulty most people have in forming new friends can be seen when we isolate the sexes and see how they socialize with those of their own sex. Males tend to prefer to hang out in groups and don't get particularly close to any one guy. Females tend to prefer to hang out with one or two close friends at a time...but often only one.
So in general males aren't good at forming close friends because they put limits on how close they get and females aren't good at forming a lot of friends because forming close friends takes a time and trust investment.
I think for most of human history, friendships between adults were formed by common tasks or tasks which put people in the same proximity. For example, women had to often do food harvesting and processing together or fetch wood or water together, and men often went hunting together, and this was all for necessity or to fulfill a common interest.
