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lostonearth35
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24 Jul 2018, 12:03 pm

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I must be passive-aggressive because I just went out for groceries on a sickeningly hot and humid day. It was, as usual, the first time I left the apartment since Thursday. I was a sweaty mess by the time I was finished even though the place was air-conditioned, I hate my new "smart" phone so much, just attempting to make a simple phone call made me feel stupid and stuck in the 1980s, and then finally when my mother arrives she confuses me with where she wants me to put the groceries in her car. That's when I suddenly just blew up and ran into a store, screaming at my mom to leave me alone. After a minute or so she comes in, and since I needed her to drive me back so I can take my groceries into my apartment, I had zero choices but to go. We drove back in complete silence. She didn't even say goodbye when she left.

So there you go. My life is empty and pointless, and I hate the summer heat and my phone so much I upset the only person who is actually still a real part of my life.


Yes, I understand why you got upset with her. Do you have any other friends who you can call a neighbor? If you maybe contact?


No. I really have no one to turn to at all, and it wouldn't help anyway.



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24 Jul 2018, 1:03 pm

lostonearth35 wrote:
Summer_Twilight wrote:
lostonearth35 wrote:
I must be passive-aggressive because I just went out for groceries on a sickeningly hot and humid day. It was, as usual, the first time I left the apartment since Thursday. I was a sweaty mess by the time I was finished even though the place was air-conditioned, I hate my new "smart" phone so much, just attempting to make a simple phone call made me feel stupid and stuck in the 1980s, and then finally when my mother arrives she confuses me with where she wants me to put the groceries in her car. That's when I suddenly just blew up and ran into a store, screaming at my mom to leave me alone. After a minute or so she comes in, and since I needed her to drive me back so I can take my groceries into my apartment, I had zero choices but to go. We drove back in complete silence. She didn't even say goodbye when she left.

So there you go. My life is empty and pointless, and I hate the summer heat and my phone so much I upset the only person who is actually still a real part of my life.


Yes, I understand why you got upset with her. Do you have any other friends who you can call a neighbor? If you maybe contact?


No. I really have no one to turn to at all, and it wouldn't help anyway.


I am sorry to hear that because I believe in community building along with learning to tell my family member no when I moved out on my own whenever they gave me a lift to a grocery store. Rather if I run into a neighbor I have them offer me a ride or other times I take a cab or depend on the bus.



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26 Jul 2018, 5:13 am

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My mom's passive aggressive. One of her characteristics is turning down offers to help & then complaining about how she's doing stuff herself


Hah! Good Lord, can I relate to that.



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28 Sep 2018, 7:57 am

I have family on my dad's side who don't understand me and don't want to understand and so they tell lies. years ago, when I was attempting to live on my own, my parents wanted me to stay with them. Instead of saying they weren't comfortable with the situation, they told us the public transportation was terrible by their house and that I needed to be as close to my new job as possible.

Not long after, my roommate discovered there was something off about me and didn't want me around or in the house because I did a few things that she didn't like. She said she was having this big birthday party and I wasn't invited.



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28 Sep 2018, 8:44 am

To be honest I AM passive aggressive. I think it comes from the fact that I have always been powerless my entire life.

I bet there are a lot of other aspies who are passive aggressive for the same reason. Feeling like a second class citizen because of a condition you were born with really sucks.