cato4797 wrote:
Sometimes, when I'm feeling anxious about a person or a situation, I cut them out. Like I block their number, delete our text conversations, block/unfollow them on insta/snapchat (least common). Usually not all at once, but I do it.
Also do this when I'm embarassed — I just had a problem where I totally creeped out a girl (i think) in my friend group, so i'm considering withdrawing from my friendships, including my roommates, to avoid emotional and social pain. Also do it when I'm afraid of rejection, or trying to avoid future pain.
Does anyone else do this?
Well, now I do more and more. It's taken around six decades to get to that point. Before, I would just stay in denial until the other person(s) just had to get rid of me first. I think my biggest problem is that I gave too much thought and concern to what other people thought of me, and not enough about what I should be thinking about myself. When one is short of friends, it brings out the people pleasing urge in us, and this just makes it all that much worse for an Aspie.
It sounds as if you see things coming a lot quicker than I did. I hope you're not over-reacting in those situations, but sadly in my own life I've seen that when we suspect things are about to go bad, they do. The worst is when one sticks with a bad situation, and it ends with being gaslighted.
TBH - I think things are/were actually fine, much much better than I imagined they were at the time. And my freaking and anxiety and assuming they were worse, and subsequent actions and anxiety, made things so bad.
23 Aug 2018, 9:30 pm
