Why is it OK for NTs to insult Aspies?

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I've only explicitly been called weird in a derogatory way once. I was called strange A LOT by acquaintances in high school, but they were otherwise complementary. (I was in a sheltered environment.)

It was my mother and sister who did me the most damage, but they are Aspie-like themselves, but perhaps more NT? And, yes, I had to be nice to them, but they could criticize and name call me. No more! It's not ok for Anyone to insult ASD.

It's not OK at all, but when people talk about how Aspies often get spoken to by NTs, it sounds like it is inevitable that the NT will not keep their thoughts to themselves regarding the Aspie's social awkwardness, but if we pointed out a social quirk to an NT, it will be oh-so-wrong of us to be so honest. As Aspies and autistics we are taught by society to tread carefully around people as not to hurt anyone's feelings, but we get more hurtful comments by people who aren't on the spectrum.

I will never forget that documentary thing I once saw on TV about an Aspie teen who got bullied by his classmates; calling him horrible names that damaged his self-esteem and tripping him up and stealing his money, and the teachers were aware of it. Then one day the Aspie called them a name back, and they got upset - and the Aspie got in trouble. The teacher even lectured, "how do you think they felt when you called them that?" If I were that poor boy I would have turned around to her and said, "I f*****g KNOW how the f*ckt*rds felt when I called them a name because it's how I'VE been feeling all this time they've been calling ME that name along with all the other terrible things they've done to me."

Sorry but that just made me angry.

Yep....that actually happened to me.

This kid was following me around calling me "ret*d" all day. Then he wanted to shake my hand. I shook it, all right!

And then....my mother blamed the whole thing on me! Because she got a $60.00 medical bill because I tore the kid's ligaments.

There comes a point where it's just ENOUGH ALREADY!