Making "bad" friends

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I think some Aspies are so desperate to have friends that some manipulative people will take advantage of our lonlieness and exploit us in exchange for their "friendship".

You're 100% right about that. I used to do that. I'd do favors for people who needed them in the hope that they'd become my friends. I'd often go out of my way at my own expense for people who didn't appreciate in the vain hope that they would treat me well. It almost always never worked. And I ended being used and taken advantage of.

I had male friend (user whatever the je** was) tell me ,"I am popular and you are not! No one will believe you,you do not have any friends you need me!" Was a great Jerry Springer time of my life! He was definately a user and predator!

i am kinda like anti friend or something like that .i dont make friends.people form friendship with me.and most of the time the person i like to be friend or i really like turn out to be my backstabber,bully and spreads rumours,ans tell others how weired i am(even though they appear more friendly than others before me)

I have made a few bad friends before. They are not friends with me anymore now.

My friends in high school were just about the worst move I could make. Smoking pot to make them like me was not a good thing as I liked it so much as a way to escape that I did it all the time and am now having trouble stopping. It's even worse because now that I'm in college my roommate smokes and I can't know he's going to smoke without smoking. My favorite part though was when my "friends" needed me to drive them on some crime sprees and now I face the blame.

my school's best friend (we were friends since the age of 7) was a son of a VIP lebanese Baath member (the lebanese Baath : a small Lebanese version of Baath party in Lebanon that doesn't believe in Lebanon's identity but it believes that Lebanon must be a part of Syria , this party was the real ruler of lebanon for about 30 years during the Syrian occupation ), i was kid when i first met him and I wasn't really aware about these political/nationalism issues . We had a some things in common and we were always together most of time in the recesses and even after school(zip it! i am straight!) but he was kinda possessive sometimes , our friendships started to fall at first year of high school by a small political debate , it's when i told what I think about the Baath's ideology as unpatriotic ideology and i am against it , he took that personally and things went from bad to worse . With his brother ,he started to make phonecall-threats like " if you are man , step out the house ..we're waiting outside to teach you some lesson" or " wanna go out to buy some bread today?" , "where's your sister?" ....etc .

at first tie I thought he was calling me from his home just to scary me but I spotted him and his brother outside from my window: they were always outside . Next day , I hit him and he hit me back and we fought later a couple of times at school ,

These phone threats continued DAILY after school and police couldn't dare to do a thing against abt it since his family was "backed-up" , note to mention that most police high officers at that time were assigned by the Syrian regime . Things only pacified a bit when his father interfered and told him to stop spoiling his image ....but he stayed my enemy till the end of school .

First I'd like to say Hello! I just found this site and have been reading through. It's interesting how most people here more or less think the same as I do.

I've been through lots of "sets" of friends throughout school. To this day there is not one friend from school who I am still in contact with (except for a few acquaintances who only talk to me when they want something. )

From what I've read in this thread so far it seems like some people have had experiences where others have basically gone against them. This has happened to me countless times and was very much undeserved. One of my best friends - I'd like to say the *second* best friend I have ever had - suddenly stopped talking to me one day without reason. Upon finally getting ahold of her via phone two weeks later, she broke down to tears and told me how awful I was. She claimed I was abusive, mean, hated all her friends, and completely ungrateful. Her words couldn't have been farther from the truth, though. In fact I liked and was friends with all of her friends (until they all ceased contact after she went nuts) and I never argued with her for a single moment. It seems to be a common thing that these kinds of people - NT's I guess you all call them - freak out around people like us without any apparent reason.

Anyway...thought I'd share my thoughts on this...and again... I'm glad to have found this site. Hello!

When I was younger and more naive, I befriended a lot of "toxic" people - people who play mind games and have ulterior motives. As I have gotten older and a little less naive, I have learned to step back and be very careful about who gets into my life.