Well your hubby sounds a little bit like me. Ive been married for little while to someone who is OCD. We irritate each other. What I can explain from his point of view is that even thinking that he is different makes it real painful for him. I've had certain dreams, focuses, and goals in my life. The one time you open up to somebody it ends up killing your career or future opportunities. So its painful to talk to about and as far as Im concerned nobody really needs to know it just degrade your credibility as a person in others eyes.