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Spokane_Girl

04 Dec 2008, 4:21 am

violet_yoshi wrote:
Perhaps you need to explain to your mom, there's this new thing called the internet. It provides the same thing she's talking about, except without having to go out into the world, and risk possible face to face rejection.



She doesn't see the internet as the real world. She says everyone online isn't real because you are talking to a computer screen and there is a very little chance you will see them in real life. Also they won't be there for you physically when you need them.

That's how she sees it. Sure you can call them and talk to them on the phone, see them through webcam, mail each other gifts but it's risky, especially giving them your phone number. But it's also risky in the real world too.

That's probably why she doesn't go on forums and probably never will.



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04 Dec 2008, 9:14 am

Spokane_Girl wrote:
violet_yoshi wrote:
Perhaps you need to explain to your mom, there's this new thing called the internet. It provides the same thing she's talking about, except without having to go out into the world, and risk possible face to face rejection.



She doesn't see the internet as the real world. She says everyone online isn't real because you are talking to a computer screen and there is a very little chance you will see them in real life. Also they won't be there for you physically when you need them.

That's how she sees it. Sure you can call them and talk to them on the phone, see them through webcam, mail each other gifts but it's risky, especially giving them your phone number. But it's also risky in the real world too.

That's probably why she doesn't go on forums and probably never will.


Yeah, that doesn't mean real people aren't on the computer communicating with you. It's not like some vast AI program or something.



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04 Dec 2008, 10:06 pm

Spokane Girl does your boyfriend have friends? I got a long with a few of my boyfriends friends. It was kind of hard to let them go when we did break up, but for a short time I did have fun with them.



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05 Dec 2008, 7:20 am

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I gave up trying to have friends when I was in my teens. I was sick of the rejection, sick of the boredom and sick of them not liking what I like. I didn't have things in common so I decided I was done with them and would rather have someone who likes what I like. I tried again when I was 16 but none of them wanted to come over. They said they were too busy or something. I think they were just saying that.

I did date guys for a bit before I met my current boyfriend and then that was it because I had finally found someone. The my mother said it's time to take the next step. Getting friends.
She said I don't need to be with them for hours and when I am with family, just stay and visit for 20 minutes and take a break.
At Thanksgiving, I ate and talked and then I left the table when I was done. Well I left when my dad got up and went back up to my brother's old bedroom and did the computer.

I'm not really interested in having a lot of friends and I am fine being alone. Just something I got used to in my teens. Before, I hated being alone and wanted someone to play with. I always get excited or happy when someone would come over and play.


Hey I can relate to you quite a bit. I'm not in need of friends either, I really like being alone I need alone time to recharge. People drain me, my energy, literally. I agree the rejection is hard. I had quite a few friends when I was younger. It was easier then as it was all about 'play'. Then when we reached the teenage years I'm glad they invented personal computers. Most of my friends in the neighborhood were starting to get interested in things that I wasn't. It was easier to have friends online as the parts I wanted to have were easy and all that other stuff was cut out because of the distance. I doubt I will never be as close to anyone as I was with the kids I grew up with though. I still keep in touch on the holidays, I guess that has to be enough.



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05 Dec 2008, 3:40 pm

pensieve wrote:
Spokane Girl does your boyfriend have friends? I got a long with a few of my boyfriends friends. It was kind of hard to let them go when we did break up, but for a short time I did have fun with them.



Not really. He has his family and his old boss. He never hangs out with anyone except his brother has came over twice with his son and nephew and niece and they all have fun.