"THE SECRETS OF SUCCESSFUL SMALL TALK" by GroovyDr

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Yeah, people have a strong animal component that few fully comprehend and even fewer understand to any extent at all. But that animal component drastically affects every single human interaction. That's where body language comes in handy.

Gotcha. I know what you mean. I've had similar problems.

This is a tough one, since I can't actually see your face. There is a tremendous amount of body language that goes on in the face, and it is much harder to control than the grosser movements like posture and arm position.

But I'll see what I can come up with! For now, the best thing I can suggest is to work on learning how to project relaxed, non-aggressive body language with the rest of your body. If you can do this, then people usually blow off the facial contortions as your "clowning around". In fact, this is part of what clowns do.

See, if you frown and scowl along with crossing your arms and turning partly away from somebody, then your body language is consistent throughout. The other person will think you're pissed off. But if you open your arms, hands out of pockets with palms showing, face the person almost but not quite directly, mime his body language, and make healthy eye contact, along with scowling and frowning, the other person will go into stitches. He can't take you seriously, because he can plainly see that you're not really mad at him. You'll become quite popular as a funny guy, if you can pull it off. And that way, you don't have to worry about controlling your face when you don't have full concentration.