What do people talk about?

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In my experience, women tend to talk about other people a lot. As in, like, a lot. It's baffling and boring. I find the conversation of highly educated men easier because it's more often about ideas and suchlike, though I'm close to a dead loss at the sports side of male conversation.

I have found that few people object to a quiet, attentive (or attentive-seeming ) listener who doesn't chip in very much, so if you can bring yourself just to listen...

It's very tough to join a conversation that you find incredibly boring. I once had to spend an hour in a pub listening to 3 friends talking about house decorating. They found it so interesting but I was bored after about 2 minutes. I dealt with this by going on auto pilot - I nodded and smiled and appeared interested, but I stayed in my own world inside my head. I then hope the conversation changes to something that I feel I could contribute the odd comment or two. I've become pretty good at attending to the person/people talking to me yet staying in my own world at the same time if things get too boring or difficult.

I don't think I could ever be genuinely interested in what someone else is talking about if I find it uninteresting. Most times, people bore me with their interests. I find myself at a loss when it comes to conversation with people.

Thank goodness for the good ol' Autopilot!! ! I can't function without mine!

I just look for openings. Like someone'll talk about their job, and I'll relate it to how I like to play video games. Then they'll talk about someone I don't know, and I'll compare them to someone I do know. Tête à tête so that we can both talk and can hold a conversation whenever we're talking about things neither of us have in common.

They talk about their day, the news, work, music, hobbies, people they know, random objects in the room.

I'm getting a little better with talking to people, and I don't feel much anxiety when I don't talk.