"You're so quiet..."

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11 May 2009, 8:03 pm

You can respond that you are simply invoking your fifth admendment right...and your right to remain silent... as what you say can be used against you in a court of law.

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11 May 2009, 8:24 pm

i get more self coinsious if someone tells me that. i dont know why but it is distressing :oops:

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11 May 2009, 8:45 pm

I always respond by saying "I don't have a lot to say." People tend to accept that.

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11 May 2009, 10:17 pm

I am so tired of hearing this.

I just say that I'm tired or something. So they'll just leave me alone.

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11 May 2009, 11:54 pm

You are so right, Knowledgeiskey.

In my younger, feistier days I used to ask them why I had to be more like them instead of the other way 'round--it was usually enough to make them go away and stay away.

I still go from zero/calm to 60/pissed when people start with the "What's wrong with you today? Why aren't you talking? Are you mad about something?" Drives me insane instantly.

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12 May 2009, 5:32 am

I normally just shrug or attempt a smile. Unfortunately someone saying something like that to me usually makes me even more quiet. :roll:

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12 May 2009, 6:01 am

Three responses;

I'm just thinking
I don't really have anything to add
I prefer just to watch/observe.

All honest answers really when used appropriately.
Upon first meeting it's more of a shy thing. After that it's any of them three ^ (if I am quiet).

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12 May 2009, 8:28 am

I usually just say I am shy, but I am not anti-social.

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13 May 2009, 6:56 pm

Haven't had that problem come up recently but was told in an interview that I was quiet and later realized that being not a popular guy was not a bad thing so embrace it and if anybody asks state that being quiet means my brain is working

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13 May 2009, 10:07 pm

I'm sick of hearing that. I get that a lot because I'm a teenage girl and we're supposed to talk all the time. Usually I just shrug and say "I'm a quiet person", "I'm kind of tired", or "I don't have anything to say". I don't know why it's ok to ask someone why they're so quiet, but rude to ask someone why they won't ever shut up.

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13 May 2009, 10:32 pm

omg that happens to me too or why are you so shy??
idk how to answer that i just shrug to or say yeah :oops: :oops: :oops:

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14 May 2009, 9:42 am

I usually just reply, "That's right. I am quiet. Thank you for pointing out the obvious."

That usually gets them to leave me alone after that.

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14 May 2009, 3:50 pm

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What I don't like is that the people who tell you that you are quiet are the same ones who would ridicule you for your quirkiness if had you been more out going. It's just our defense mechanism from getting riduculed.

An astute observation. Seeing it laid out in that manner, it makes a lot of sense.

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15 May 2009, 5:46 am

I've heard this for as long as I can remember. It can be very irritating. Sarcasm is tempting, but not the best way to ingratiate yourself with someone.

As others have suggested, saying stuff such as 'I don't really have anything to add' is a better way of playing it.

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22 May 2009, 8:04 am

At first I tried to smile and this the result:
She's crazy, why she's smile ??

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22 May 2009, 11:59 am

whilily wrote:

At first I tried to smile and this the result:
She's crazy, why she's smile ??

Interesting to hear I'm not the only one. Everyone tells me to smile more, but it scares the crap out of people when I do it without something to smile about.

In fact, I get a lot of self-help tidbits that don't help unless you're the whole package. Nobody ever understands.

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