DonkeyBuster wrote:
...I realize that most adults don't intend to hurt others... myself included...)
I spend most of my life wishing that were true. Making excuses and trying to find a rational reason for the way people behave.
What you're thinking of is the superficial stuff that people are willing to talk about. One can be selfish or short-sighted and accidentally step on toes.
But underneath it all is an unacknowledged system that REQUIRES constant bullying, at every level, in every situation. It's that never-ending game of CalvinBall. If you don't play, you pay. Aspies don't get it and are therefore victims of this game, all the time. Probably most homeless people are homeless because they can't play the game. In the military, people who don't get it are used as cannon fodder. Back home, they're used as stepping stones. Overt or covert aggression always wins, and nice people always lose.