Cheek kissing

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Cause she was really against all that had to do with me and did her best to made me feel it in my skin and in my soul, if it was her way to show that she cared about me I would rather be orphan... it's not completely healed but since I know I'm autistic and for sure she as well I try to understand her and give it another perspective. Still she is a bad person -I would dislike her even if she was not my mother and after understanding that she is aspie-, she was very very very mean towards me.

Untill I got to that point where one understands that you can just walk away, that every body can go fcuk themselves but not you...

good luck!

I don't know how useful this might be for you, but well... seems related


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My mothers family is Greek Cypriot (so very hyper social) and they always insist on cheek kissing. I absolutely hate it. It's disgusting and the feeling doesn't leave after they've done it. Luckily I don't see any outer family members anymore. Nothing personal against them, I just dont like seeing people outside of my closest family.

Its perfectly ok to assert boundaries, particularly physical ones. You gain your peace of mind by refraining from this behaviour, she loses nothing, apparently, as your friendship is not affected by the lack of cheek kissing.

You could do it anyway and lose your peace of mind in the moment or for however long it lingers (I personally have felt unsettled for hours later, and even for a long time after that when I happen to remember it), but then what does she gain, really?

My point is its probably not worth it to allow someone to tread over your physical boundaries when you have more to lose than she has to gain. That and its important for us to assert boundaries and not let people stop them.

They do double cheek-kissing now in the UK (never did it years ago) and I find it abhorrent and also very difficult to refuse when in the moment, people tend to make it happen so fast - they just go right in on you. I don't know how to stop such a fast movement without actually screeching "STOP" very quickly.

I don't mind it with family, it's just weird when it isn't with family. I guess I tolerate women a lot more, but it'd be kind of gross to me if some man that I met for a minute cheek-kissed me for cultural reasons.

Kind of intrusive, really. I also don't want my makeup smudged.

I always feel awkward over cheek kissing. The whole air kissing(without looking like a prat) vs actual cheek kissing thing.

Do you handshake an opposite sex friend/family member or air/cheek kiss? I prefer handshaking but am never sure what is expected. It's probably part of my social skills sucking.

I prefer to just nod and say hello. If it looks like some sort of physical contact is expected then I'll go for a pre-emptive handshake to divert any attempt at cheek kissing. At worst it might be perceived as socially awkward, but I am socially awkward and they're going to find that out anyway.

I think that's a pretty acceptable way of handling it, it's a pretty universal form of greeting anyway

Like Dianita in the post above from years back, I am from the Netherlands, where we customarily kiss three times on alternating cheeks. However, you do have the option to avoid this by going for a handshake instead, so usually that's what I do. I only cheek-kiss with people I am very comfortable with. I am genderqueer (androgynous and biromantic), and I also don't mind kissing men, but often here in Holland it's only gay men who kiss each other's cheeks, so I don't often encounter this.

I don't understand cheek kissing or even air kissing AT ALL, even with family or friends. It's so completely phony looking. It never looks sincere, it always looks like something people think they're supposed to do but don't really want to.

It's also abused by SOME people who are hitting on someone and just want to get more physical nearness that's still "socially acceptable."

I don't like cheek kissing either, it really puts me off. I have to trust someone well before they do it. Even then, if my sister's partner does it, I don't like it at all, even though he's lovely.

When I really like someone and they are a proper friend or loved one, it's a hug I prefer, more than cheek or air kissing.

I really don't mind hugging but only when and if that person is a close friend. I'd rather do a quick but heartfelt hug with a friend than the weird, pecky cheek kiss or even an air kiss.

I also feel like more than just one cheek is excessive. Why double? It used to be in the UK that IF anyone did kiss a cheek, it was just the one side and DONE. The whole point is the kiss portrays affection, but if so, then one suffices, why does there have to be two?s

Now it's the pretentious two-kiss which is meaningless. One kiss should say what's being said. I can't say how much I hate this piece of behavior.

Some of my family members use to kiss me on the cheek and it grossed me out a little because I didn't like the feel of the wetness on my face.