Why Are You So Quiet?

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26 Jun 2012, 6:35 am

Of all the things said to me, this one hurts the worst, especially when someone keeps trying to make me talk. It just makes me want not talk all the more.

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27 Jun 2012, 1:33 am

I work the door at a bar checking IDs & I've tried all types of diversion tactics to avoid hearing how quiet I am. I have basically just come up with 'I'm just a quiet person' which gets me my best avoidance of retorts. I really feel NTs just are used to one another's empty greetings like "what's up" or "how ya doin" & they instinctively get thrown off when this is not what's heard. Though these are the same fools who will stand in a elevator for minutes not realizing they didn't press a floor button because they didn't notice there was no "ding" noise that happens when one presses a destination floor button. The human cattle "moo" greeting is just expected by them.

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27 Jun 2012, 2:10 am

lancefilip wrote:

spot on and humours at the same time ;o)

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18 Jul 2012, 6:32 pm

I hear this because of my second job, running a door at a bar. It's like a broken record of redundancy that is meant to drive me bonkers. I've tried every kind of answer and none just shuts em up. The NTs either end up assuming I'm mean or I have PTSD from war or something.

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19 Jul 2012, 7:04 am

GiantHockeyFan wrote:

I'm so quiet for a number of reasons. Let's look back at my life:

Pre-schooler: It was hard to adjust since most of the children were already in full time daycare
Elementary school: I was so far ahead academically and did not follow the crowd. For example, when we were asked to draw the sun everyone drew the standard yellow with straight lines. Me? White with the wavy lines as the electromagnetic radiation would be if we had the ability to perceive it. Yeah, it's hard to relate to people when your head is in the clouds.
Junior High: The more I spoke, the more I was bullied. Bullies would take everything I said and use it against me and my literal interpretations didn't help. For example someone asked if I was straight and I told them not quite since I thought they meant did I stand up completely straight. You can guess what happened for the next two years!
High School: I seemed to be the only person not into drugs, smoking or alcohol and most conversations revolved around those topics. Oh, and music when I listened to talk radio most of the time. When I was quiet I was left alone and that was better than fearing for my life constantly.
University: I got a little better but was usually overwhelmed and went into 'shut down mode'. Still assumed anyone being nice had ulterior motives.
Young Adult: I hate small talk and find it difficult to start a conversation with someone I don't know. Recently I tried to be more friendly and outgoing and apparently women in their 20's think "hello" is code word for trying to be a creep so I pretty much ignore everyone I see at this point. It's just not worth the effort to talk to anyone I don't know at this point.

Sounds similar to my life story.

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19 Jul 2012, 6:18 pm

lancefilip wrote:

Your funny.

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22 Jul 2012, 8:50 am

All the f*cking time! :wall:

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06 Aug 2012, 6:10 pm

Tell them your a disabled sea lion, proceed to say 90% of life is simply turning up I'm here aren't I ? and I ain't spending the other 10% preforming for your benefit.

And if they still don't get it tell them to find some one else to validate their existeance

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08 Aug 2012, 5:20 am

Gaya wrote:

This question rritates the hell out of me. Especially when people act like they're doing me a favor by telling me I'm quiet and that I should "talk more." Um, if I could I would. But in the past when I did people hated what I had to say, so I only speak when I know what I have to say will be valued.

This is always my case. Even this question don't irritate me, I still have no clue to respond. I feel sorry for my awkward existence but afraid to speak up too much that people hate so much.

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08 Aug 2012, 9:38 am

I just never have anything I feel like sharing with people.

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10 Aug 2012, 1:49 pm

I can never think of anything to say.

I've never really had friends as I grew up in a neighborhood with no one my age. The only friend I ever really had was a guy who was 19 when I was 12. we used to ride dirt bikes but after a year or so he moved away to college. also while in the second grade I got put in the special needs class that ruined my chances of ever having friends.

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