For those with few or no friends

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I feel similarly to this. People seem to like me a lot when I'm in a community group or something, but I never know exactly how to ask, "Hey would you like to hang out afterwards?" and people rarely invite me to do anything, so I spend most of my freetime alone as a result. That's why my entire life I've had "friends," but at the same time not really. I don't have many people I could call up if I was in trouble or anything like that. Making a friend for me feels like starting a romantic relationship in the sense it's very awkward at first, and I don't know how to let the person know I would like to be their friend. It's probably harder actually, in the sense I can't just come out and ask, "Hey would you like to be my friend?" as opposed to pursuing a romantic relationship I could.

i only have one friend. better yet, a best friend. but for the rest, i shut people out for fear of getting hurt. it's happened to me before and i want to make sure that it won't happen again. but of course, shutting people out will only make me more lonely and somewhat unhappy. it even gets harder when you don't have anyone to share, talk, or put your trust to. people don't care what you have to say or fell anyways. but on the bright side, no one will criticize you, belittle you, or make up stories about you if you keep to yourself.

This has come up a lot lately. I am wanting to get out there more but find I'm just not equipped with the tools to navigate the social environment.

Finding a social anxiety / aspie social meeting circle has become a priority but there doesn't seem to many out there outside of major city centres.

I feel like a child when trying to socialize. It makes it even more difficult when people treat me like a child. Kind of a Catch 22.

I'm happy with the few friends I have. I've been let down too many times by others that I don't feel like wasting my time and feelings. (unless of course it's a WP friend! )

I voted "quite happy." In the true sense of friends, I have none. I do have family though---and that is enough for me. Of course when I was a child, I did the usual trying to fit in thing---but it was quite awkward---and it was even noted on a report card that I needed to socialize more. I did have a best friend, and we were almost like brothers. But when we got in junior high school, he wanted to begin socializing with more friends, and I just did not fit in with them---so I became a loner. Since I have always had special intense interests---I occupied my time with them. And I have been very happy with my special intense interests. What developed in high school was that I considered these interests as more important than friendships. But, I still had some friends in the band and into computers (in the early 1980s).