Can you be Asperger's and still be "cool"?

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In my opinion I feel that my freinds and peers perceive me a cool person to talk to and my freinds tell me that I am a good freind. Sometimes I make my freinds laugh, not laugh at me but laugh with me. I only have like 1 enemy and the reason is that this one person is literally evil and likes to provoke and stir up drama between others.

As Fonzie would say.... "Heeeyyyyyyyyy!"

to be serious i am not cool. i do not use "buzz" words.
i never say "dude"
i never wear sunglasses.
i have no rings or other jewelry adorning me.
i have no tattoos.
i have no idea about "fashion"
i am completely aloof from the current trends.

no one ever said i was "cool" and i have no interest in being "cool".

i do not really like people who have a sense of who is "cool" and who is not.
if someone called me "cool" i would say "whatever".

therefore maybe i am hot.
(joke)

People with AS usually start out as geeks because they have very flawed social skills and unusual interests, but later in life they can become more "cool" as they diversify their interests and train their social skills.

I would say I've been in the transition between geeky and cool for the last 10 years or so.... With a little help from my friends, I should eventually get there.

If you're nice, yes.
But then you're just nice and eccentric, at least that's usually the case.

I'm cool to my friends
But I'm not cool in the popular kid sense, I've tried I have really tried but I failed. I gave up in year 8 and stuck with people who accept me and it just so happens that they are usually nerds/loners/aspies etc and I'm perfectly happy with that. I don't wear fashionable clothes (every attempt I made at being fashionable just didn't suit me. ever) I usually just wear jeans, tshirt, jumper and tatty trainers and my dated denim jacket with fur trims that would have been fashionable in 2002. I don't act "cool" either, it's near impossible to do.
Not that I care, my little circle of best friends don't care who I am and that's all that matters

i am quite cool, cuz i have a unquie sense of how to how to have fun i have various events with freinds at school danceoffs , pre cancer drive funraiser sales , free chip sales and hot sauce sample sales and shop in between songs at the dance in the lobby, skate shows, bmx shows i also plan dance videos, rap videos, videogame videos/tounrments skateboard /bmx videos in my garage/basement, in front of my house, at the skate parks and street footage as well at skate bmx at skateparks and street spots. i am a cool skater bmxer that learns from each person i bike/skate with i would say i have a cool image i dress skater bmxer amoung other things i am quite calm and cool and have an amazing chill , freindly easy to get along with peronality.

Well...

I am sitting in my office at work right now reading this and my Snoopy socks I am wearing says "King of Cool"

So I'm cool right?


Hmmm, OK, maybe not....

Actually, I wouldn't know Cool if he danced on the table with his friends Peer Pressure and Fashion Sense.

"Cool" is a subjective term. I think complete dweebs who like video games and dress up as pirates on weekends are cool, but that's just me. LOL! This all coming from a girl w/blue hair.

If you mean "Can you have AS and have a relatively normal social life?" Sure. It depends on your flexibility, willingness to learn NT social cues and language but without sacrificing who you are in the process. It's not worth "fitting in" if you have to sacrifice your core principles. What's important is that you enjoy the company of those you're with and not making yourself like somebody because of their perceived social status in the "cool crowd".

My eyes are golden brown. I wish they were violet or bright blue. My daughter lucked out and has beautiful blue eyes. Must be hiding a recessive gene in there somewhere. ^_^

I hear you on not being worth it, but there are many occasions where I come into contact with NTs. Some are my friends because they're open-minded enough or quirky enough (some are ADD/ADHD-- a cousin of us spectrumites) on their own that they mesh with me. Most NTs that I mingle with are acquaintances. Nice people, but really wouldn't go to friend level with most simply because it's too much work on my part to pretend to keep up with their topics of interest, small talk and tendancy to hang out in large crowds that overwhelm my ability to hold a conversation.

It's taken me a long time of self-discovery and reflection to like myself enough. I know I'll never be comfortable completely with interaction outside of my close circle, but I do try-- not because I feel I "have to fit in", but because it's good practice that can be applied to faking NT at my job.