"why dont you find friends your own age"!

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I can generally get along with some people my own age, but I also have a ton of friends who are a grade or two ahead of me.

I tend to get on much more with older people. Some have told me it's because I'm very mature for my age, but I'm not so sure about that.

In the past, I've always gotten along better with people who were older than me. At previous jobs, I'd go to lunch with guys who were in their 40s or 50s rather than guys in my own age range. Now it seems everyone I hang out with is quite a bit younger than me. I'm 31 and most people I associate with now are 19 - 21ish.

No matter what age, I've always had trouble fitting in with peers. The only age groups in which I feel most accepted are people in their 50s, 60s, 70s, and even 80s or kids as old as 9. When I worked in nursing homes, I couldn't believe how popular I was. It was far removed from my everyday life. People around that age seem to be a little more accepting or at least don't bother with the social "norms" most people in my age group worry about.

Whenever I go to anyone's house, I find myself sitting quietly amongst a jabbering group of folks with busy "adult" lives. To avoid such akwardness, sometimes I'll sit there fixing a child's toy or talking to them or petting or playing with a dog or cat.

I always preferred to hang out with the adults when I was a kid. It really annoyed the adults in my family and they told me to go play with my cousins, but I wanted to hear the interesting adult conversations! I'm now 28 and still prefer hanging out with older people.

I do have a few super young friends, though, around the ages of 21. I kinda like feeling older than them. My best friends are 27 and 21.

I'm in high school and I find it easier to talk to people who are in college. One of my best friends is in college now, and he has helped me with the application process and given me advice about the social aspect of college. Most adults enjoy trying to scare me about college and telling me how "terrible" the work load and if you don't live on campus you be an anti social nerd with no social life, which is not true at all.