I just don't have anything in common within anyone my age.

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Stinkypuppy,


I may give some thought to taking a Swing dance course, pehaps this summer. I am relieved though that the aerials are not done much now!

I tend to be somewhat stiff and rigid (I have been called 'Al' as in Al Gore) by nature but usually loosen up as I become more comfortable.

One of the neat things here in Indianapolis, is The Indiana Roof Ballroom:

http://www.indianaroof.com/

From what I gather it is one of the few originals left in the country.

My grandparents danced together when dating before my grandfather went to fight WWII.

As to where I lived in CT, I lived about 20-25 minutes East of you off I-95 in Madison. Sorry you have had no snow. When I lived there in the early 90's we had cold snowy winters. I remember several 'nor easters!

By the way, I have visited The Yale campus. Nice place. I even bought a few things at the co-op.

Cool

I live in Dallas. Need I say more? For those not from around here, people are unapproachable, and they send out that vibe loud and clear in their expressions and body language. Everyone is too good for everyone else. So I usually go with the "screw 'em" mentality of just pretending they don't exist. It's all about competitive social one-up-manship here. Interestingly, we've been the murder capital of the U.S. for something like 10 years.

Sorry to be so negative in this post. It's just how I'm feeling.

I thought Houston was the murder capital now because of the Katrina evacuees.

Tim

I thought so, too! My mom and I were thinking about moving back down there a couple of summers ago, but we're now very glad we didn't thanks to Katrina. No wonder the crime and homicide rate has gone straight up! It was already bad enough with all the illegal immigrants.

TheTraditionalFrog, I've been to that ballroom! Isn't it great living in Indianapolis?

Welcome to the club!

Lightning88,

Sorry, I have taken so long to get back to this thread.

I'm not sure if you were being sarcastic or not, but in answer to your querie in regard to living in Indianapolis.....

Yes, I do like Indianapolis. I find the people here are quite friendly for the most part. The only real thing that I find naff is the public transportation system. Indygo dosen't always go (everywhere you want to go)! Unfortunately, until I acquire a driving license later this spring I am stuck using Indygo.

To be honest, as much as I like Indianapolis, I would really prefer to live in the country an hour or so outside of the city. I would enjoy living in a semi-wooded area.

The Traditional Frog

Don’t worry, I wasn’t being sarcastic! Sometimes living in Indy can be really cool. As for the public transportation, I don’t really have an opinion on it since I’ve never used it, but I hate getting stuck behind those busses in traffic! As for the people, I’ll have to agree with you. There’s some really nice ones and some total jerks here. Do you know that town New Palestine? Every single person I met back when I lived there was just awful towards me! To this day, I haven’t stepped foot into that town since. Anyway, I’m not much of a nature person, but my mom is. We live right in front of a nature preserve with lots of trees, three lakes, and a large river. How long have you lived in Indiana? We moved here in 1995!

Lightning88,

Sorry for the long delay on getting back on this thread.

I have lived in Indiana practically all my life. I was born in Indianapolis. My first memories were of the family home in Speedway. In the early 1980's my dad took a job in Bloomington, IN. He got tired of the commute so we moved to the nearby town of Bedford, twenty miles south of Bloomington. I lived there until I went to the boarding school in Connecticut (family stayed in Indiana). After graduation my family moved back to Indianapolis.

In answer to your question, yes, I have heard of New Palestine. I know where it is but have never been there. My Mum and Dad know a really nice insurance salesman there though. Sorry your experience there was terrible.

As for nice and not nice people, well I have found you get that mix everywhere you go.

Finally, my advise regarding public transit in Indy, if you can avoid using it do so. Although I admit it is better than having no transportation. Sadly, still haven't got my license yet.

I find it pretty hard to find others who share my interests in real life. Sure I'll find plenty of otakus at conventions but I find it too hard to approach people there.
By contrast I can usually find people online with my interests rather easily and make the effort to talk to some.

I want to be in a relationship with an Aspie woman who has the same interests and beliefs as me.

Tim

Ugh, I have always felt like I would be lonely for all eternity. I am a freshman in HS and I have always had that problem with people my age. I get certain things that other people my age don't get.

Here's an example: I love that book Animal Farm, it has so much meaning and I loved how it ended! When other people my age were talking about it they say things like, "That was so bad! It was so wrong how the pigs wore clothes and slept in beds!" I did ask them, "You do realize that the animals were not the point of the story?" They repiled yes, but if they really understood, they wouldn't have commented on it the way they did.

My first real friends came after skipping a grade, then joining the non-frosh on the chess team- I'm still friends with those guys. At the time, the two year age gap was a huge blessing. . . the fact that they were a)guys and b)chess nerds, into classical music and logic puzzles, seemed to help as well.

For many years most of my human interaction was reading. . . I was genuinely suprised to find that my grandparents had been born after the turn of the century. That's how entrenched I was into the voice of an older generation. I've also worked for years on making my language informal enough for general audiences.

I'm guessing this will get better for you as you age- though it will probably still be a struggle. It got better for me. It helps to remember that pretty much everyone looks stupid when they're trying to be cool, and that there are more kinds of people out there than most of us (including myself) have the power to imagine. . .

I have the same problem. I can be friendly, somewhat outgoing(with the right person, or when I'm in a good mood), and can joke around with the best of them, but when people start asking personal questions, like what I did over the weekend, what my interests are, or start talking about their family(kids, wife, etc...) I just keep to myself or pretend to know and like what they are talking about, so I don't come off as too wierd.

My current interests are:
Traffic lights and street memorabilia
Anything computer related
Electronics (stereos, TV's etc...)
Custom trucks...real ones and models (kind of a reccuring thing)
Drawing
Designing things

I'm in my 30's & don't feel like I've much of anything in common with my "peers". They're all at the breeding stage of life, which is not something I'm interested in (either for myself or the activities & offspring of others). I'm unable to work, so have no shop talk to discuss nor co-workers with whom I might make acquaintance.
So I feel like a weirdo, dunno' how to find my "niche"-and embarassed to meet new folks bc. I haven't socially acceptable details to share-just my messy make-it-up-as-I-go-along life. I don't make plans or have goals, beyond hoping for more of what I like & fearing more of what I dislike-yet it's considered "normal" for people to be chock full of future projects. The future happens in the future, I can't predict or imagine what it'll be like for me nor motivate myself accordingly. I stand out as peculiar whether I want to or not, bc. pretending to have my act together is too exhaustingly difficult-and also hugely dishonest.
I don't share many group interests & don't enjoy "doing" active things. I like to read non-fiction (sociology, psychology, etc.) but it's far too much typing to try conversing about those online.

Ah. I used to be the same way. The problem was with me. I didn't have any common interests with people because I didn't have very many interests. I had to go out and try different things. You have to expand your interests. At least try to form an opinion on things you're not interested in.