"Don't be so serious all the time."

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Yeah when people are joking around with me, even if I do get their joking I don't really know how to react to it and I don't find it funny anyway. Then they tend to get all antsy when you don't laugh or whatever at their jokes. It's actually quite irritating when people use mock anger all the time, I see it as the least intelligent form of humour.

Be very careful when people say this quote. I had a band teacher and some others say this to me a long time ago. Being "too serious" turned out not to be my "problem" at all. Rather, just being forced to be in band and not being treated with respect was a big problem instead. Being too eager and jumping the gun too soon and not trying to relate to other people or even being forced to jump the gun too soon definitely hurt me.

If someone uses this line, you can try to "counter" with if you learn how to do [insert your favorite interest here that you can talk about] then that will help me warm up to you as a person more. Maybe this one will be easier to say: If you will watch the Big Bang Theory with me, that will help me warm up to you more. People may laugh at these statements. That's okay. Then that gives you an excuse to walk away or say a polite good-bye and walk away.

From my observations it's true. We are too uptight, strict by the rules and rarely become laid back about stuff.

I've loosened up from past experiences and I would say that I am more lax then people who don't have Aspergers.

When I talk to fellow Aspies I see it a lot and I kind of feel put off by their strictness in everything and I can actually relate to people who do say "Why are you so serious all the time?"

I still act serious on things I don't like, but overall, I let things slide as it really doesn't bother me any more. People with As should do the same sometimes considering where priorities lie.

I can understand things like education, politics and family being a serious thing, but trivial things such as someone being misinformed, mis-spelt something incorrectly shouldn't be taken as seriously, as people really are not trying to do it on purpose.

The too quiet comments I can live with too, as that is just how I am.

I get the "why so serioussss???" lol, thing A LOT. I also get "Are you angry?? You look angry..." ...when in fact I was not angry at all...until they asked me those damn questions