Board index › Coping in life › Social Skills and Making Friends

Mostly Like Or Dislike People In GENERAL?

Page 3 of 5 [ 78 posts ]  Go to page Previous  1, 2, 3, 4, 5  Next

Previous topic | Next topic

vandire
Sea Gull
Sea Gull

User avatar

Joined: 27 Mar 2007
Age: 38
Gender: Male
Posts: 201

14 Apr 2007, 4:33 pm

Sometimes, I feel a soft, constant compassion for humanity in general. Then I have to actually deal with a person, and it goes back to hatred and distrust of the majority.

Interestingly, though, there are a few individual people (Like one of the Aikidoka I practice with, and my TaeKwonDo instructor) who I genuinely like, right from first talking to them, and have never had any problems with. At the moment I'm still trying to figure out why that is.



RedMage
Veteran
Veteran

User avatar

Joined: 8 Nov 2006
Gender: Female
Posts: 6,812

14 Apr 2007, 7:04 pm

I hate all people because none respect me!



Graelwyn
Veteran
Veteran

User avatar

Joined: 20 Dec 2006
Age: 50
Gender: Female
Posts: 8,601
Location: Hants, Uk

14 Apr 2007, 7:29 pm

RedMage wrote:
I hate all people because none respect me!


You seem to spend your entire like hating people...full of hate. And hate begets hate, as someone here said. Do not expect people to like you until you show them some respect and STOP hating everyone who doesn't behave the way you expect! Don't you even see the things you say? You are always saying you hate people. Or hate peoples' games. Or hate people who have this and have that... you even told me you hate moderators when I was made one, after I had bought you a game. And you ask why people don't like you??



RedMage
Veteran
Veteran

User avatar

Joined: 8 Nov 2006
Gender: Female
Posts: 6,812

14 Apr 2007, 7:31 pm

Leave me alone, I can hate people if I want to!! !!



Logan5
Deinonychus
Deinonychus

User avatar

Joined: 24 Feb 2007
Gender: Male
Posts: 398
Location: Sanctuary

14 Apr 2007, 7:32 pm

"I love mankind. It's the people I can't stand." - Charles Schulz (via the character "Linus", in his "Peanuts" comic strip)


_________________
Guidance for UK assessment and diagnosis through the NHS: http://www.wrongplanet.net/postt227311.html


Graelwyn
Veteran
Veteran

User avatar

Joined: 20 Dec 2006
Age: 50
Gender: Female
Posts: 8,601
Location: Hants, Uk

14 Apr 2007, 7:32 pm

RedMage wrote:
Leave me alone, I can hate people if I want to!! !!


Hate people then... just don't go on and on about how they hate you as fair is fair. People have a right to hate you as much as you have a right to hate them. It works both ways, not just your way.



RedMage
Veteran
Veteran

User avatar

Joined: 8 Nov 2006
Gender: Female
Posts: 6,812

14 Apr 2007, 7:33 pm

I'm sick of you thinking you're always right! Well new flash, you're NOT always right!!



Graelwyn
Veteran
Veteran

User avatar

Joined: 20 Dec 2006
Age: 50
Gender: Female
Posts: 8,601
Location: Hants, Uk

14 Apr 2007, 7:35 pm

RedMage wrote:
I'm sick of you thinking you're always right! Well new flash, you're NOT always right!!


Lol, I know I am not always right...but evidently, you have yet to learn that about yourself. :lol:



MsTriste
Veteran
Veteran

User avatar

Joined: 7 Dec 2005
Age: 61
Gender: Female
Posts: 3,307
Location: Not here

14 Apr 2007, 7:38 pm

She's only 15, AND she is an aspie so likely suffers, as I do, from black/white thinking. Leave her be.
Redmage, I felt the same way as you - 15 was absolutely the worst year for me. It took a while to get a little better.

Now, that being said... I am inclined to think positively of new people, then when they do something I don't like (which is inevitable) they go on my bad list.

There are a few people I've met and taken an immediate and visceral disliking to. My husband's cousin's girlfriend - I hated on sight. Can't explain it - just can't be around her. I go on immediate overload whenever she's near me, and she's never done anything to me. (Shrugs shoulders)



RedMage
Veteran
Veteran

User avatar

Joined: 8 Nov 2006
Gender: Female
Posts: 6,812

14 Apr 2007, 7:42 pm

I don't like people because I don't understand them. Then again, they don't understand me either...



Graelwyn
Veteran
Veteran

User avatar

Joined: 20 Dec 2006
Age: 50
Gender: Female
Posts: 8,601
Location: Hants, Uk

14 Apr 2007, 7:42 pm

aylissa wrote:
She's only 15, AND she is an aspie so likely suffers, as I do, from black/white thinking. Leave her be.
Redmage, I felt the same way as you - 15 was absolutely the worst year for me. It took a while to get a little better.

Now, that being said... I am inclined to think positively of new people, then when they do something I don't like (which is inevitable) they go on my bad list.

There are a few people I've met and taken an immediate and visceral disliking to. My husband's cousin's girlfriend - I hated on sight. Can't explain it - just can't be around her. I go on immediate overload whenever she's near me, and she's never done anything to me. (Shrugs shoulders)


Don't you go telling me what to do, I shall speak as I wish. You have your way to advise and I have mine, but do not presume to tell me what I can and cannot do. Do not presume that I do not know her issues as I fully do having been there myself.



MsTriste
Veteran
Veteran

User avatar

Joined: 7 Dec 2005
Age: 61
Gender: Female
Posts: 3,307
Location: Not here

14 Apr 2007, 7:45 pm

Graelwyn wrote:
Don't you go telling me what to do


? Aren't you telling me what to do? How come you can tell me what to do but I can't tell you what to do?

And, that being said, I think as adults we have a responsibility to be kind and supportive of those who are teenagers. Yes, you and I have both been there, and we both know how much it sucked. I assume that you, like me, have her best interests at heart. However, perhaps your message to her is being lost in translation.



Graelwyn
Veteran
Veteran

User avatar

Joined: 20 Dec 2006
Age: 50
Gender: Female
Posts: 8,601
Location: Hants, Uk

14 Apr 2007, 7:48 pm

aylissa wrote:
Graelwyn wrote:
Don't you go telling me what to do


? Aren't you telling me what to do? How come you can tell me what to do but I can't tell you what to do?

And, that being said, I think as adults we have a responsibility to be kind and supportive of those who are teenagers. Yes, you and I have both been there, and we both know how much it sucked. I assume that you, like me, have her best interests at heart. However, perhaps your message to her is being lost in translation.



No, we have the responsibility of being HONEST and not painting over the truth with a nice rosy tint. That does not help. I have BEEN where she is, I drove away many friends with my rage and anger whenever I get hurt and I still get stuck on that even now. Telling someone nice words when it is their anger that is causing the issues in a major way, does not help. Telling the truth as you see it, does help, then there is a balance between those who want to coddle, and those who want to speak it how it is.



RedMage
Veteran
Veteran

User avatar

Joined: 8 Nov 2006
Gender: Female
Posts: 6,812

14 Apr 2007, 7:49 pm

Whoa...



MsTriste
Veteran
Veteran

User avatar

Joined: 7 Dec 2005
Age: 61
Gender: Female
Posts: 3,307
Location: Not here

14 Apr 2007, 7:56 pm

So we're in agreement then! Life sucks, especially when you're 15. Can we please move on? I like both of you, and really think we all have a lot to offer each other.

You know, MS and I have an ongoing disagreement that this reminds me of. I believe that when we are unhappy and circling the cesspool of hell in our brains, that we need to spend some time in that place in order to get out. He believes that it's not good to even go there.

We have agreed to disagree :)



Graelwyn
Veteran
Veteran

User avatar

Joined: 20 Dec 2006
Age: 50
Gender: Female
Posts: 8,601
Location: Hants, Uk

14 Apr 2007, 7:59 pm

Yep, sounds good to me.