Are you very shy?

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Yep, I've been there and got the T-shirt.

I am generally very shy and won't start a conversation unless someone else initiates it. However, I can do OK when dealing with a few people who I have known for a while, or in well-defined business situations.

Every once and a while, I think that I should sit down and write out a matrix for social situations and my comfort level in them (maybe there is a pattern that I can use to help me move outside of my normal comfort zone). I keep thinking about all the factors that influence me: number of people, density of people in the room, how loud it is, randomness of the activity, etc. It seems like my brain has a secret formula that it uses to determine how much adrenaline (or whatever else) to start pumping.

I'm not shy, I just don't care enough to talk to people sometimes.

From when I was about 3, I was very shy with people I didn't know and stopped asking for help as the teachers didn't listen.

I'm okay just talking to one other person and I think that's why it took so long to get diagnosed with Aspergers. People didn't see the impairments unless I was in a group and then they just thought me painfully shy.

I was instructed by some people to "make more of an effort" which was very bad for the confidence levels. I am afraid of talking to people I don't know well for fear of "stuffing up", getting told off or being rejected in some other way. Some people just look at me as if I'm strange but others say I look perfectly normal so who knows?

I hate making phone calls and always have. My parents never had to worry when I was a teenager about my using the phone too much.

I study human social interactions. So I am very aware of how to interact normally with people, but inside of me I believe that the rituals that people engage in socially are akward and should be cut through quickly and cleanly. But the flip side of this is that I CANT intuitively improvise during social rituals and i often experiance akward silence, akward reciprocy of conversation, and other unnerving little occurances.

So sometimes I will cut through the ritual and unnerve people, and say things clearly. I do this when something needs to be said to make progress. Other times I play around consciously with the reciprocal conversation that goes on.

So i'm shy, unless I need to get business done. At which point I am horrifyingly outgoing.

I am outgoing too.

I tend to vacillate between being overly outgoing and Painfully shy. I'm usually outgoing (sometimes butting into conversations) when somebady is talking about something that interests me, sometimes with strangers. Other times though, I'm really reserved, shy and withdrawn. If a group of people is having a conversation, I'm usually somewhere on the fringes. I have always dealt better with one on one situations that with groups. At the same time, I can also lose myself in a crowd.

For the longest time, I was painfully shy as result of the countless social failures I experienced over the years.

The day the results of my Dx came out (2 years this coming December), the acronym for False Evidence Appearing Real ceased to exist as a word in my vocabulary. Now I know what my condition is and I've accepted as part of my being.

I am not afraid to meet people and make friends. The acceptance and understanding are amazing when people are educated about it.

Oh sure I still meet jerks sometimes but I don't think twice about telling them off if I see fit to do so. The funniest part is when the jerks end up looking like deflated baloons

I can be pretty shy, but it all depends who I'm with, where I am, and what I am doing.

But as a general rule, I'm very shy, in person.

GA

I'm better with people I know, such as my family. Making phone calls to people I don't know is very hard for me at most times.

I hate asking for help because some people yell, get impatient, roll their eyes and say I shouldn't need help.

This is where assertiveness training could help but what happens if you are assertive and the other person gets even ruder and harder to deal with? That is something I haven't worked out yet so I tend to deal with it by not asking for help unless I absolutely have to.

I've always had difficulty with social situations. But the extreme bullying I encountered in middle school contributed to me developing social anxiety disorder which caused me to freeze up around people and feel like everyone was just waiting for me to mess up so they could laugh at me and call me stupid. Strangely, though, I chose print journalism as my major in college and worked for the schools newspaper as a reporter. And every job I ever had required heavy contact with people and I always was one of the best employees in the company.

I have this ability to separate personal social difficulties from business interactions. I know how to act on the job but outside of that, I get lost. I take anti-depressants and Klonapin for the anxiety and depression so this helps me function whereas it would be hard to walk, eat, talk or do anything else in front of people.

Yes I am very very shy!! ! Been that way my whole life. I only really speak to my family and close close friends. And maybe some co workers like hi how r u and stuff.

I talk to people online with a little problems.

It funny cause In real life I'm pretty shy,but online I'm a totally different person I have more friends online then in real life.

I'm not shy...but I'm not outgoing. I find I'm awkward when I meet somebody, but get pretty outgoing (very babbly and giggly) when I get close to somebody