Myers-briggs types & social skills

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The fact that I am introverted helps me to use the function of inward withdrawal to calm myself down (when needed especially in a high stress environment like medical school). Then again since E's get their energy from people (lock an extrovert in a room with no contact with anybody & see how they feel pain). Do the same thing to an introvert & they'll feel at home. Having AS means that solitude is used as a recharge (like Introverts do) and extroverts need people otherwise they go bonkers (I know I repeated myself)

Yes it is very painful. You spend your whole life dreaming of having lots of friends but end up being shut out of everything you want to be part of. I kind of envy introvert aspies for that, it would be great to be so energised by solitude.

For some reason I need to hear people's voices to feel ok. If I find I am alone for extended periods I put the TV on or a DVD so there can be talking around me. It makes me feel better if I am feeling down or tired. Talking to people is even better but that is an option which is not always available.

Dealing with objects or being responsible for getting details sorted in the physical world is something I find particularly draining. Anything body-oriented puts a sort of mental strain on me. I am not very coordinated.

zen_mistress

Since you need to hear people's voices to feel okay could you call friends up using skype without the video chats? I don't know it's a suggestion to try (bear in mind this coming from an introvert so that may not be the best solution for you). In what way is dealing with the physical world draining for you since you said that dealing with body oriented stuff drains you.

It's funny that we speak of extroverts just took an anatomy practical & because of cheating on the first we are trapped in a classroom can't go out. The extroverts are thriving in this situation due to the fact that there are a lot of people but I being an introvert feel the need to withdraw right about now so I feel trapped but can't really do much about the situation so then again even an Aspie would go nuts where I'm at right now

I just find that it is mentally draining to do anything with my body, walking, running, typing, cleaning, etc. I think i dont process all the movements very well and they sort of pile up in my head. I find physical activities very frustrating.

I would imagine it would be frustrating to be stuck in an extrovert situation like that. I know that I get stir crazy in places like libraries and any too quiet places, or places that are unemotional.

It is frustrating to be stuck in an extrovert situation like that with me being an introvert. However, like you stated introvert friendly places like libraries (which can be more extroverted then you may believe when a great deal of people are there talking) or extremely quiet places are painful for you because being an extrovert you get your energy from the outside i.e. being around people. As for not being able to do anything physical because it is draining for you I am assuming (& please correct me) that is a result of something else (AS perhaps)?

I think the problem with doing physical things is due to dyspraxia.

Thanks zen_mistress so yeah how are you with a small group of people? I can deal with small groups but not large ones

I think I am better one on one with people than in groups. I tend to be a bit withdrawn in some types of groups, or I lecture.

I'm also better in one on one situations though like I said I can deal with small groups not large ones & especially I can't deal with gatherings where I don't know a lot of people (thus making me feel isolated and alone)

ISTJ here, I wish I was INTJ so my intuition could let me "predict/sense" things in *advance*, but I guess one of our common AS traits is finding it hard to quickly see the intentions/ulterior motives in people...

Extroverted people with AS must have it harder than those who are Introverted. But in a sense, it's good coz they are more likely to engage in conversation with others and improve their social skills (unless they are too shy/self conscious to begin with).

@amajanshi

A fellow ISTJ ! Awesome now only if that database in my head didn't demand that others act rational (which isn't always the case especially when useless emotions get in the way). As for being an extroverted aspie what happens when they are drained & need to recharge since aspies recharge via solitude (which we introverts are masters at a way I recharge is being on WP or watching youtube videos of Big Bang Theory or House or if I remember Bones)

" A fellow ISTJ Very Happy! Awesome now only if that database in my head didn't demand that others act rational (which isn't always the case especially when useless emotions get in the way). As for being an extroverted aspie what happens when they are drained & need to recharge since aspies recharge via solitude (which we introverts are masters at a way I recharge is being on WP or watching youtube videos of Big Bang Theory or House or if I remember Bones)"

dark_mage, omg I get annoyed when people say or do things in which I don't understand why. Oh well...

I recharge by reading news websites or just sleeping/hiding somewhere around Uni from people who I know lol. I see you're at Med School, which University do you go to out of curiousity?

Hey Amajanshi

I also get annoyed when people say or do things which don't make sense to me but then I try to find out why did that happen & thus causes me to over analyze. I try to find a place with less people (because I don't like crowds). I go to Ross University it's in the Caribbean (on the island of Dominica) but when I need to hide out I just go home (to take mental "breaks" from the extroverts around me

For those who happen to be introverted at all (or ISTJ or any of them) do you have trouble reading emotional signals? I believe I do simply because sometimes when others are giving these signals off (the people in question happen to be extroverted) I can't understand them (subtly is not my strong suit I'll admit to that)