Fed up as all hell with neurotypical stupidity and ignorance

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Simple solution to all NT problems: find a quiet place, shut the door, and do whatever you consider fun. Then remind yourself that thinking about other people is not going to do you any good, it will only make you more frustrated.

You're never gonna change how NTs act, but you can definitely change how it affects you.

Take heed of my psychologists advise:

" I am a sensitive person and I should go work for myself"

I wasn't feeling to sensitive when I got the diagnosis I was brain damaged for gods sake.

Actually they are right I coped heaps of grief at work even though I was their # 1 worker as a cycle messenger a job I really really loved back in the 90's - early naughties, I think it was in part due to co morbid conditions and of cause in part being aspie ,but the way I see things someone will always be an @ in the workplace and guess who their going to direct that @ness at.

|Anyway it doesn't matter what I do when you've stared death in the face and recovered I could do SH%ty shelf packing jobs (night fill job) and be quite happy I'd much rather be surrounded by breakfast food cereals than people, wouldn't you ? and at least with night shift work I could still earn a living I was very very they still pay penalty rates for that type of work in this country and so they should.

I remember many many moons ago their was one of those annoying union (employers) on "morning television" proposing we scrap penalty rates his reasoning consumers don't pay a premium for a good if it's bought on a Sat Sun or late PM , well that's kinda a lie actually , anyway the presenter asked him what than would it mean higher wages for other workers or cheaper prices for the consumer or would the windfall go to business I haven't the foggiest to what he said...


Anyway I'm very lucky, no mortgage (house paid off ) no car (no desire for one either) no dependants, so I could be on minimum wage and still live like a king .

One of the reasons I've turned off the TV * one of the best decisions I've ever made , try it

* unless it relates to a special interest lucky these type of shows are presented/ produced by people who are on the spectrum so their naturally are not annoying and imbecilic it would be quite a dilemma if my special interests where not so aspie friendly like Rugby League have you seen they way they carry on programs such as the "footy show" sometimes I think their parodying themselves .

Some normal people expect me to fully control my Asperger's, but there is a normal person in my life, I'm not going to say who because that would be gossip, that keeps targeting me and won't leave me alone. Having a bully aggravates me to the point of insanity. Every time I let out my frustrations on my family they tell me to shut up and ignore the person that keeps bugging me. Ignoring people is extremely hard for me. I don't mean to sound angry, but I want people to accept me despite my highly-complicated brain patterns and mixed-matched emotions. I can tell people to stop bugging me, but I lose control and get aggravated instead. Sorry about the venting, but, sometimes, I have no clue of how to express my feelings. Some normal people act like I'm a terrorist threat, but I'm really emotionally troubled, sometimes. I didn't mean to be so upset, but this is an Autism forum after all.

This is not because of neurotypicals, in case there really is no such thing as a neurotypical. Also just becuase you have a condition that we may share doesn't mean are much alike. We may have perceived shared experience but that is similar to the theoretical notion of witnessing on red

Most people (including ASD) have only got a certain amount of emotional energy to devote to other people's issues. They are goign to make assumption just like we do. They aren't all born shrinks, they are human being with fault.

If you don't cut people some slack with their shortcomings, you can't expect the same in return. There is no neurotypical conspiracy, they can't help being how they are in the same why.

It was Henry Goddard that came up with the word Moron, and he was more moronic than most in his theories. Reality is the definition of moron is arbitrary (51–70 IQ points), it has not real significance in science, other than associated with historical discredited theories.

Mental health issue are fairly common 1 in 4, so more common the ASD by a long way. But even so getting people to understand each other aliment is a though ask.

BTW people's social intuition has nothing to do which what they think about it, this is on a completely different level to inherent and reactive (there is even the question whether it resides in the part of the brain where 'self' is). So what they say and how they act can be different and even contradictory. They can be just as clueless on this, as we are. Except if you're are having to make considered analysis over years to compensate, you might actually become better at understanding some of the social dynamic than the average person who has no reason to really think about it. They just act and react.

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Just becuase something is extremely challenging doesn't mean it is impossible or you should never try to overcome it.

Polarization of issues and politics result in almost a necessity of holding a particular view on ability or lack of it, which often doesn't model reality closely.

My personal view that yes we should fight for recognition of difference for sure. However that is not to say that it isn't worth challenging yourself in some areas that might help. Of course this should be done on your own terms, but there can be huge benefit to doing this.

There has also been a 'necessity' that all the symptom are supposed to be very fixed and unyielding. However recent evidence that contradicts the idea it is not possible to get significant improvement in some cases. Some people will always using this for political reasons, but I see just science.

Of course this not good for some people because some people have based their entire careers on a theory, but such is life.

I'm not talking about 'cure' either, I'm just challenging the idea the self-improvement is an impossibility.

Maybe people you know are unsympathetic, and perhaps they don't really get it, but who truly understands someone else anyway?

Now let me be clear, my lifestyle is completely bespoke. It fit the thimble vs, bucket idea of social interaction. I'm not saying to replicate purely what otherS are doing (in fact I would specifically advise against it). However just don't self-limit or write yourself off, Even with bespoke lifestyle, it is never going to be totally ideal you need to build in resilience of that.

You probably do have some goals, and you might have secondary issues, like anxiety disorders, confidence issue or whatever that you may need to work on to be able to get there.