Are you very shy?

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This is me to a T what you are all saying! I can socialise with close friends but I hate being in large groups!

I have my sister's fiftieth coming up on saturday with all her in-laws, and some aunts and uncles coming over, it's my birthday the day before!

I hate these events and I prefer having a quiet birthday, just me and my sis and my schizo brother usually go for something to eat.

Then in the summer we have a wedding in Ireland where the reception is nearly 50 miles away from the church which would drive me nuts! I hate religion as well and the Irish all think they are holy Joes! lol

I hate it when they start asking me why I'm not working and i should be a teacher as i have a MA 2.1 in modern history, yea right, I'm gonna teach kids BS and lies!


I'm going to Berlin, so the wedding and the fiftieth can take a hike!

Very, very shy. I will very rarely say the first thing in a conversation.

Id say i was the shyest person ever between the ages 8-17. I didnt talk almost at all. It was very bad where I couldnt make phone calls or going up to the cash register and buying something. I remember when I was visiting colleges I couldnt communicate to the food people what i wanted. So I avoided it. I was scard to walk into club meetings or just go up so someone and say something. I had this conception in my head that you needed some sorta connection already to even talk to someone. Then when I was 17 I decided I wanted to break my shynest and tried very hard and did a s**t load of ridiculous things in my junior and senior year which due to the cliquish nature of my school and just my aspieness, it wasnt nessarily acceptable. I didnt quite realize it until later. I didnt really have any friends until senior year, not counting those stupid girls i tried to hang out with junior year that never wanted me really around. But all my friends senior year never wanted to hang out with me outside of school. Well I didnt have any close friends till college, i have 2. Right now im known amongist my friends to say the most bluntly sexual things. Right now Im probably not quite as shy anymore but I still hate things such as huge crowds, huge groups, superficial socialization, passing other people socializing. I have a lot of resentment from highschool. Theres some social interactions which sometimes I have a hard time distinguishing whether its my shyness or my social ackwardness.

I have struggled with shyness all my life. Although I find that age and experience have definitely helped. I remember when I dreaded the thought of getting on a bus and asking for a ticket-it seems crazy to me now! One of the best things I found when meeting new people was to ask questions-I know it has been said before but people love talking about themselves. And the more you talk to new people the easier it seems to get. It does take me ages to open up to new people though and let them see the real me- its a form of self protection. If you have suffered rejection in the past it is hard to avoid putting up barriers.

It totally depends. I classify myself as an extrovert, because my whole life people have told me that I talk way too much. That's true with friends, and also true with people I view as potential friends (the problem is that if I'm hyper or nervous I go overboard and I end up repelling them instead). But with people that I do not know or who make me feel uncomfortable, I can be painfully shy. I either am actually shy, or I just don't know what to say. I can be talking 90 miles a minute for a while, snatching up all my turbulent thoughts and vocalizing them energetically, but then in the next hour, perhaps in a different setting or mood, I'm totally silent, thoughtful, off in my own little world. I'm starting to see myself as a mixture of extroverted and introverted (although I'm not sure if this makes me "stable" or "unstable" in my case. I guess "unstable," seeing as it's me.)

Interestingly enough, a character in .hack//SIGN, Mimiru, is described as "extroverted" on the .hack//SIGN website, but apparently she has few friends, and during one scene where she is seen in real life, she seems quiet, passive, and generally unsociable. Hmm...