26 Jan 2010, 1:48 pm
Cactus_Man wrote:
In all fairness and for the record, I do like to occasionally just say pointless things. Sometimes my friends and I will even have entire conversations consisting of non sequiturs in which neither of us know what the hell is going on, just for the sake of filling an awkward silence.
lThis could actually be fun
Cactus_Man wrote:
My objection is to those who become genuinely upset when I attempt to say anything thoughtful.
I'm pretty sure they already get that my brain is wired differently
I'll need a better excuse than that if I am to get them to understand...
I'm pretty sure they already get that my brain is wired differently
I'll need a better excuse than that if I am to get them to understand...
No, you don't. People don't really need to know why you're different. I used to think people would understand me better if they knew WHY I was different from them, but in reality I often wish I never mentioned Asperger's at all because they now complain that I'm just using it as an excuse and they can use the argument that Aspie deficits can be overcome with the right amount of effort....
Cactus_Man wrote:
Halfway into the party, I'd consumed some alcohol, and I'm beginning to recognize the fact that alcohol makes me act like JJ from Skins when he takes the pills. (It's a British show; I know some people on these forums are aware of what I'm referring to because I saw a previous post about it.) Basically, I just say things without thinking. (At least people finally get what they want: a me who doesn't "over-analyze" 
) Anyway, both friends are in the next room, and for some reason I tell the people I'm talking to how I'd been confused about the invite situation, and how I couldn't help feeling like I might be an unwelcome intruder- I think it was in response to them asking why I looked uncomfortable, or something. One of the friends comes out and a girl seated at the table with me is like, "Did you invite ___?" and I just put my face in my hands like "What the hell, I'm so screwed now," and he just playfully comes up behind me and rubs my hair (also like JJ... weird) and says how he loves me, and of course he invited me, and etc.
You'd think I'd just shut the hell up, but later on into the evening we're talking (me and a different group of people who don't know each other) about how we know the two friends hosting the party, and I give this long, complicated, confusing spiel about how I hope I'm their friend, but am not entirely sure because I keep saying and doing stupid things (oh, the irony), and I have the strongest feeling that one of these people (a certain girl in particular, but not the same one as before) must have told them what I said. It's just an extremely uncomfortable situation.
) Anyway, both friends are in the next room, and for some reason I tell the people I'm talking to how I'd been confused about the invite situation, and how I couldn't help feeling like I might be an unwelcome intruder- I think it was in response to them asking why I looked uncomfortable, or something. One of the friends comes out and a girl seated at the table with me is like, "Did you invite ___?" and I just put my face in my hands like "What the hell, I'm so screwed now," and he just playfully comes up behind me and rubs my hair (also like JJ... weird) and says how he loves me, and of course he invited me, and etc.You'd think I'd just shut the hell up, but later on into the evening we're talking (me and a different group of people who don't know each other) about how we know the two friends hosting the party, and I give this long, complicated, confusing spiel about how I hope I'm their friend, but am not entirely sure because I keep saying and doing stupid things (oh, the irony), and I have the strongest feeling that one of these people (a certain girl in particular, but not the same one as before) must have told them what I said. It's just an extremely uncomfortable situation.
It seems like you're worrying too much. Maybe they invited you or maybe they didn't. Maybe they like you or maybe they don't. Honestly, I don't see how one can conclude ANYTHING based on that story. Why do you think these people don't like you?
Further, why do you really care that you're like JJ on pills when you've drunken some alcohol? Do your friends treat you any differently when you're under influence? Why do you think anyone would mind?
Cactus_Man wrote:
Damn... looking back on that one night by itself, I'm thinking maybe telling them that I have AS is the only way I can possibly preserve this friendship- even if it turns out I don't have it! 
IMO, you just have to be yourself and those who are not willing to accept you for who you are will drop out whereas your real friends will reveal themselves.
Some people will actually enjoy your quirky sides and think your weirdness is genuinely funny (in a positive way), whereas others will easily get annoyed by it. Don't think that everyone will hate you or dislike you for being a weirdo.
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