what kind of people rub you the wrong way?

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I was gonna say, do you like anyone? I don't mean that in a critical way, but just about everyone fits well into one of those descriptors.

The same people who rub cats the wrong way. Who does that? Just don't do it.

Controlling people. I use to have a manager who wouldn't let me talk when I told her how she was lying to me about my wage. I ended up having a melt down because I couldn't get a word in and I was getting screwed around big time

agreed with this statement.

I personally enjoy day dreaming and people always think it's funny to break my trance of happy thoughts. They would clap loudly to make rattle me back to reality. Let's face it for me, reality sucks. In my day dreams, I can control the events which as an Aspie I really enjoy. The predictability factor is a huge component to my day dreams. Without it, there is no incentive.

Judgemental people.

Also people who lack a sense of humour. I like a laugh so when I try and have a joke with someone who's not interested then it annoys me.

the cybernetic maintenance department is full of fools who do not know how to use "brasso".

they should polish me in a circular motion, but they mostly use a zig-zag polishing action which makes me look like i have fallen into a sandpaper factory rolling machine in a diagonal fashion.

People who try to manipulate me, cause harm to me or otherwise make my life unpleasent for the most part.

maybe just cut them out of your mind.
but if they have power over you externally from your mind, i do not know what to say.

i just close my mind to people who i am very disappointed with, and i never think about them again.
they can not hurt me.

i hope people who you should ignore can not hurt you outside of your mental reality.

I usually spend as little time as possible with people like that..for instance my moms boyfriend fits in the 'otherwise make my life unpleasent' he's not smart enough to manipulate me and he's too afraid of me to otherwise cause harm due to a couple PTSD freak outs I've had. But yeah if you spent 10 minutes with the guy I would be suprised if you could not see why I don't like him.

Oh and another reason I don't like him.......he thinks he's a musician, but the other day he said 'I just play the songs, they(the rest of the crappy band he's in) tell me to play its not a big deal to me.' How dare he disrespect music that way..........if it does not mean anything to him why the hell does he play it?.....I mean no wonder him and his 'musician' friends suck at music. So yeah I also don't like people who insult music.

if i do not like someone after 30 seconds, their microphone into my mind is switched off by me.

i am glad he is not smart enough to cause you harm, and it is also fortunate that he may fear what may happen to him if he tries to impinge on you.

i never let anyone's attitude affect my own attitude because i do not believe in people much.

i think you know you are essentially innocent, and you do not deserve to be punished .
people who try to "punish" you (i.e. impose their punitive will upon you) will be constrained by the law (and if not, vigilantism) if you so desire.

the world maybe a cold and hard place in many ways, but there is a sense of fairness that exists in most people, and if you never did anything wrong, no one can hurt you and get away with it.



there is a saying that goes "there is no accounting for taste". it is a very true statement.
some people like things that i find appalling, and some people find appalling, things that i like.

there is no discernible reason for that.

i think that there should be a saying "there is no accounting for attitude" as well.
i am not sure he was insulting all music. maybe he just did not like the songs he was required to play. you know better than me.

people who insult the essence of music are people who are blowing as hard as they can against a hurricane.
they can not stop music, and they can not alter the course of music in any way with their feeble attitudes to music.

music is infinitely more powerful than peoples attitudes to it, and so i say just sit and watch from a ring side seat, those who "rage against the machine (of music)".

ignorant people (to me) are like dead kangaroos on the road as i drive by, and i see they can not be revived and so i do not stop and involve myself with them.

there are so many good people in the world, that to be stuck considering less than good people is a waste of time.

whatever. i am not as well in the head tonight as usual, so i will finish my post here.

Its not that he did not like what he had to play........its that he just does not give a damn about music and wants to call himself a musician. He also tries to push that attitude on my 10 year old brother but I don't think it will work.....but yeah him and my mom have him in piano lessons and the guy gets all anal about if he makes a single mistake and will hover over him when he's practicing to point out any mistake no matter how minor...instead of just letting him play and get a good feel for it and listen for the mistakes and correct them himself.

To me its just not about playing what someone else wrote exactly how they wrote it, that is good for practice but once you start getting better its fun to innovate and come up with your own things and I think my brother probably feels the same about it.

How do I put this? I basically do not like people who are disrespectful, but more so than that. I don't like people who joke with me disrespectfully. Not like little casual joking, but I don't like people who joke around to harass or undermine me. I remember my youth pastor, he'd randomly hit me in the arm, or touch me, and I'd tell him to stop, tell him specifically to stop, but he'd never see the fault in his actions. Like one time he randomly kicked me in my ass, not hard, but still, wtf. At that point, I wasn't even an angry person at that time, but I felt inches away from swinging on him.

When I basically "sat him down" to tell him why I didn't like it, he denied his intentions were what I thought, but I know from jail, they ARE the same intentions, his intentions were to disrespect me. Like I told him that I feel like he's disrespecting me by doing it, each time he did it, I specifically told him to stop, and he said he was wanting to show he was "loving" to me, by "playing around" with me. Uh, no. Now, being in jail, being disrespected means possibly being assaulted or having your stuff stolen. On the outside it doesn't mean that all the time, but I still have the "scars" from jail to be wary about people trying to undermine me like so. After being in jail, basically the only social cues I know are "respect" and "disrespect" so especially with other guys, I can only "read" if they respect me or disrespect me. Like I see things in black and white like that.

So, not too conclusive of a post, but basically, people who want to lead people around, but are not wise enough to lead effectively. Usually they're young, and try to be hip, and have like "a chip on their shoulder" kinda thing. They don't wanna do individual pursuits, and usually want to control other people to make whatever their goal is happen. I feel like these types of people are especially harsh to introverted people, and then when it comes down to ASD people, forget about it. My friend, the main pastor's son, who has NVLD like me, I believe is agnostic mainly due to encountering so many people like that. I feel like these types of people, it's almost Aspergers, in the opposite direction, if that makes sense. Like, it's like they got "NT syndrome." Like, they're so "NT" that even other NTs think they're douchebags, but usually aren't courageous enough to tell them that directly. With me, I guess other "NTs" learn to sorta deal with it, or have enough emotional reciprocity to be able to communicate with them. For me, it usually ends up in all out "war" with the person.

Kind of a long and inconclusive post, but yeah. I have a lot of unforgiveness toward my former youth pastor I guess, which is not good being Christian, but yeah, I steer clear from people like that, now.

if he liked what he had to play, then he must care about music. i do not understand.
you said in your last post

i can understand the boredom in playing things that i am not interested in. for a number of years i was studio engineer (until my left ear problem happened) , and i also had to play piano backing tracks to advertisements that i thought were simple and banal. i disliked the melodies that i was told to play, but i improvised them to an extent where i actually had a mild amount of fun performing them.




that sounds like a very imposing attitude. if i had a ten year old child who wanted to experiment, i would certainly encourage his experimentation whether or not it was in the flavor that his instructors expected. i think your little brother should be encouraged to fully inject energy into his improvisations whether or not they have been appraised or endorsed by people who think they are authorities of musical design.

have you spoken to your little brother about if he feels suffocated by the expectations from his pseudo father?

does he trust your mothers boyfriend to usher him through his life at his early stage of it?
i would think your mother's boyfriend should have a very limited authority over your little brother, and i think that your little brother should have a great degree of authority with respect to how he wishes to express himself musically
does the mothers boyfriend have a musical talent? does you mother have musical talent?

if not, they may do well to keep quiet and listen in a sterile way to what his improvisations contain.

the most important thing is to help your little brother express himself in the most relaxed way he can, and shield him from negative attitudes from non musical people who may insult his improvised musical exertions.

it is like protecting a delicate plant in your garden from slugs and other predators.




to simply copy note by note a piece of music is not better than constructing a facsimile of the original piece.

you should show your little brother that you believe in him no matter what he plays (i think(i am autistic so my advice may be wrong)).

your love can help him believe in his righteousness to express what he wants to express because you can shield him from the world of idiot appraisals that may break his heart ( at his young age).


anyway goodnight and i hope i have not said anything that is stupid in this thread

People who think they are always right and think they do no wrong

Narcissistic bastards who think they're right and won't do anything that doesn't also directly benefit themselves.

Politically right-wing people. The really opinionated ones mainly.