Did any kind of bullying affect you PSYCHOLOGICALLY?

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I was invisible throughout school. I am pretty much invisible now, except when I come to the attention of somebody and then they somehow notice I'm not like them and they treat me like crap. Mostly I get the backstabbing, people talking behind my back, gangs of women at work ganging up on me, that kind of stuff. Constantly, wherever I go. Some people tell me it's because I'm attractive (not) and the women are jealous. I think it's because they sense otherness and don't know how to act. All I know is, I'm tired of it, and yes, it has affected me profoundly.

I have no hope of living a "normal" life or working at a job I like, ever.

Ah. I misunderstood the age issue. I don't know where you live, but usually there are ways to escape from such a situation. It might mean breaking out of everything that is comfortable, but NO-ONE should suffer this kind of abuse. Check to see if there are shelters for battered women in your area. I know that the circumstances don't seem the same, but I also know that the workers in such places will go out of their way to try and find a solution that will work for you. What you are in is not healthy. Some written threat, given the circumstances, will not get you into trouble - and you can't let him BS you into thinking that he really has anything serious on you with this.

bullying destroyed me and made me bitter and paranoid....i'm only just now (some 10 years later) getting over it with the help of counselling, etc.x

I got bullied A LOT in primary school and to a lesser extent in high school. In primary school I was always picked on by pretty much everyone and in high school I was in an accelerated learning class so I was in amongst other nerdy people who did not bully me, though I was still picked on by others outside the class quite severely. I did spend most of primary school desperately trying to fit in (with no luck) and my mother said she could tell I was quite distressed. At high school due to being in a special class I was protected somewhat as I had other nerdy people around and I was also able to start university young (15), so I was no longer bothered by bullying as I had friends (albeit only a few). Also another thing that probably stopped me being too psychologically affected was that after about 15 or so, I stopped caring about other people's opinions of me as I do not think people I have no respect for (which is a large percentage of the population) have any sway on what I think of myself.

Yes,

I was bullied my whole school life and even now, now that i am 22 years old i still get called names.

I was beaten up or hit or tormented every day at school either by physical bullying or verbal. Things would include being punched tripped up crisps being crushed in my hair chewing gum you name it it happened.

I had a special letter i use to carry around with me given to me by the Head Teacher of my school permitting me to leave class earlier than everyone else so i could get to classes without getting beaten up on the way.

My school life was traumatic and even now i realise it has really affected me as a person and follows me arounf even now.

I now suffer from BiPolar depression and am very suicidal and i also take things people say to me very seriously. If someone says to me "if anythings happens to my camera. I will kill you" I sit there and think nah thats just joking then i panic coz i think they really meant it. I dont like to talk to new people incase they out to get me and i always ALWAYS think people are out to hurt me because to me that was the norm.

I don't know how bullying CAN NOT result in psychological harm....especially in children.

I have been bullied since nursery, and it has had an effect because I am now worse off socially, I've gone from being quite outgoing to being really quiet and withdrawn, and I'm very self consious and any sound of laughter makes me think it's directing at me.

^I use to do that a lot too. I think I'm a little more in tune now than I use to be. I really think there's something to be said about bullying and how much it can traumatize some people. I get really sick when people say it's stage all kids go through as if they can handle this crap on their own.

Saddened by your story Angel. I hope you get better as time goes or able to get this issue dealt with. I know exactly how that feels to be afraid. I often wonder depending on the bullying if there isn't some PTSD involved. I think it's something that should be taken into account as any other abuse...I think it really does affect people psychologically though the outcomes in behavior and treatment may differ.

I'm somewhat against the myth that bullies are people who were bullied. If that were true, I'd be one of them. I often wonder if there isn't a dissassociative personality at work for this type of behavior depending on how severe it is and of course the age which is especially shown in teenage boys. I was not what you call the bully as a kid but more of the one who was always frightened. It's taken a lot of meds and counseling for much of the clinical depression. Not saying that bullying was exclusively for the way I behaved but I do think it plays a role as well as other things involved. Going to highschool was more like going to war. It was very hard for me to sit and learn while I was mostly on survival mode.

Bullying has made me more paranoid, such as if I hear a group of people laughing, whispering, or talking, I'll think it's about me and anyone who tries to befriend or talk to me, I assume they have a ulterior motive for doing so. I also don't really have a desire to make friends anymore and I'm more silent and angry then I used to be.

Yeah, kids would run away from me in the playground, they laughed at me, they ignored me, even in grade seven they spread rumors about me. I used to be so bubby, and now that side of me is gone.