Why is he being cold turkey to me?

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I have a friend, I used to talk to him quite a bit on msn last year. But earlier this year (last Semester) and this Semester, he barely starts convos with me. And when I start convos with him like "Hi XXX" or "Hey XXX, how are you?", he just ignores me and goes offline, or he says "Hi/Good" and then goes offline.

When I make comments on his Facebook status or photos which were definitely not intended to be offensive, he either ignores what I wrote (replying to other people's comments) or he gives me replies that sound condescending (even when I was trying to add non insulting humour).

He's in the same course as me, but in the year above, so I don't actually see him much in person. I have a suspicion that people have been gossiping bad things about me to him, but I can't prove it. I know that lots of people in my course have gossiped about me (that's why they know my name even though I don't speak to them), but I thought that he would be mature enough to ignore it.

What is going on?

perhaps your friend has moved on? Perhaps he is being polite to you, but you are not getting the message that he has moved on?

new terms can do that, because perhaps their grades dipped - people can have to adjust their time and ration how they are going to allot it to whomever they interact with. At that point it is not personal, just a time management issue. Just a thought.

later edit: I have been thinking about this all day (like ya' do) and a term is "the cold shoulder." Guests are feasted and when they finally wear out their welcome they are given a cold shoulder of meat instead of a hot meal to let you know time to move on. Cold Turkey, which also might work in this instance means to quit something/one with no preamble, to stop dead. Since the person still makes nice to you up to a point, I would say the it's the cold shoulder.

Merle

It doesn't sound like he is interested in you by the long shot. He sounds like he is very fickle and doesn't wan to be your friend. I don't think you should waste your time on someone who isn't interested. My advise is to invest your time in other friends who do consider you high on their lists. In the mean time, ask him if you did anything to offend him why is he ignoring you? If he isn't honest, he's not a friend.