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I don't want to make any generalisations but why do you think NT's become friends with people diagnosed with AS and what do you think their first impressions are.

I'll you what friends of mine have said about why they liked me, and their first impressions.

First impressions have usually been that I'm shy, serious, considerate, intelligent, and eccentric.

Reasons they like me:

1. Sincere. Not phoney. Don't play emotional 'games'. Direct.

2. Offbeat sense of observational humor. Dark & twisted sometimes, deadpan, multiple levels of meaning that sometimes I don't even understand.

3. Even tempered. Level headed. Objective. Trustworthy.

4. Loyal. Reliable. Supportive.

5. Interesting. Insightful. Different perspective.

6. My partner says he likes me because I look like an axe murderer <grin>.

Those are some great compliments to your character, duke. I'm gonna copy-paste them to remind myself to share those qualities with other people and stay positive about my Aspergers.

the friends I have have said they find my interesting, reliable and unpredictable (in a good way) but have no idea what their first impressions were.

Ditto what Duke said (minus the axe-murderer part ). They also seem to like that I don't do things just because it's trendy or cool. I only do things because I enjoy doing them, not because I'm trying to fit in. Even though it's not like I'm "resisting" peer pressure, I'm just oblivious to it, it still gets me some respect.

I'm NT, and duke pretty much summed up my thoughts about my close AS friend, in fact I've reminded him on a few occasions of those qualities when he was feeling down. His honesty in particular makes him very 'refreshing.'
First impression of him was that he was quite mysterious haha, since I'd never really seen him talking to anyone or joining in.

I have one friend, and she's a NT. I've told her that after 8 years I still don't know why she's friends with me. She responded by saying she didn't know why I was friends with her.

She has said some really nice things about me (most of them too embarassing to post). She was actually the one who initiated our friendship, so I guess she saw someone worth getting to know. I talked about this with the psychologist who did my diagnosis and she said that some people just don't really seem to care about a person's social graces (or lack thereof) and instead look to other qualities.