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13 Sep 2009, 1:22 am

...aren't awkward for me. I enjoy breaks in conversations. But I know for other people they can be very awkward. What do you do when a conversation becomes silent? Do you wait for the other person to speak? I'm content to just sit in silence but for all I know for every second that goes by the other person is wondering why I'm so rude and aren't saying anything. How do you know when to say something, if at all? And what would you say? :?



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13 Sep 2009, 1:31 am

Where is the bathroom?



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13 Sep 2009, 6:18 am

It depends on how well I know the person. If it's someone I just met or don't know well it will send me into paroxysms of anxiety. It almost never occurs to me that it's not up to me alone to keep the conversation going.



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13 Sep 2009, 6:52 am

DaWalker wrote:
Where is the bathroom?


Cup of tea?



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13 Sep 2009, 8:14 am

When I'm enjoying a conversation and the company of the one I'm talking to, I usually don't have awkward silences. With people you don't know, the easiest thing is to ask them about themselves. We tend to be our own favorite subjects.


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13 Sep 2009, 9:32 am

I hate awkward silences, makes me feel nervous. Unless it's my closest friend then silence isn't usually that awkward, we're that comfortable we spend whole hours just silently wacthing TV or something.


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13 Sep 2009, 1:33 pm

I don't mind silences either- I just immediately start thinking about something else or walk away. and yes, I've been told lots of times that it is rude :p so nowdays I just keep talking lol. at least people try to figure out what the hell I'm talking about instead of thinking how awkward I am. at least that's what I tell myself :P


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13 Sep 2009, 2:30 pm

sacrip wrote:
When I'm enjoying a conversation and the company of the one I'm talking to, I usually don't have awkward silences. With people you don't know, the easiest thing is to ask them about themselves. We tend to be our own favorite subjects.


I've recently started doing this and it works wonders. I really hate being asked about myself but apparently everyone else loves it (and if they don't there's probably a reason). It helps you seem less cold and self obsessed to them too I think plus you learn things about them.



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13 Sep 2009, 3:53 pm

I get those all the time and I can't say I care for it. It happens all the time and once my conversation stops, I usually just wait for them to say something and if they don't, I just leave. Nevertheless, awkward silences make me unconformable and I cannot read on what I'm suppose to do, so most times I'm clueless on the whole situation.



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15 Sep 2009, 2:50 pm

As I have no clue what to do, I just don't say anything, and let my mind wander. I just let the other person take the initiative. That way, when they ask me a question, I can answer without having to worry if I'm interrupting them.