Roommate Experiences - Good or Bad?

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i had bad ones when i studied in Canada and hated them all.
my first was a nerdy vegan,
my second was young and irresponsible mommy's little girl,
and my third was a boring-as-hell gay dude.

the nerdy vegan wanted for me to pay extra for downloading on the Internet and slams my room's door when i play music in moderate volume. i lived there for almost 5 months.

the irresponsible young one lacked roommate experience, didn't hook up the Internet, and locked me out of the apartment while i was going out one night. i called her through the apartment phone number and cellphone repeatedly and never answered. she knew i was going out! and when the entrance door of the building miraculously opened the next morning after i spent a night at a hostel, i confronted her about it and her pathetic excuse was "I WAS ASLEEP"! yeah, real nice.
not only that, but she forgot to give me the extra key to the entrance door, too. and that stupid b***h of her mom told me i had a week to look for another place without letting me explain the situation and also accused me of being lazy for not looking hard enough since her daughter only hooked up the internet for herself and not for me. i was there for just 2 weeks and a half.

as for the gay dude, he was a neat freak. but despite that, i thought of gay men as friendly, fun and lively. but not this guy.
he couldn't stand me humming or singing no matter how loud or soft it was. and he didn't want me to blow my nose either. but he didn't understand i had a really stuffy nose and only taking medication won't suffice. not only those issues occurred but he started bringing straight men to rent some of his rooms and that made me uncomfortable. both of us agreed that after nearly 10 months living there it was best for me to leave.

and then, thanks to my mom, i found a single bedroom where NO ROOMMATES can intervene! i was ecstatic for 12 months until school was over and left due to new management and lack of security.

so...roommates...love 'em or hate 'em?

Freshman year college: horrible experiences.
Sophomore year: really bad.
Junior year: N/A.
Senior year: quite annoying and difficult (though I had my own room at least).

Details are unimportant. College life was difficult for me in many ways, and I'm sure I was a difficult person to live with.

I lived with a woman for a couple of years as an adult. We were in a relationship, but living together was very, very difficult for me. I was glad when that ended.

I am currently living with my first roommate, and I have to say everything is alright.
I was very afraid of this situation, but had no choice. Where I live, everyone shares their flat. And finally it is a positive experience.
The first week I did not dare going out of my room even to pick up something in the fridge, and did not dare to use his things (cooking pans, plates..). I did not talk much to him either.
Now I feel home, I am rarely annoyed, thought I am the kind of person who cannot spend one week at their parents' without being continuously pissed.
My roommate is very easy-going, and half of the time he is away. He is sometimes travelling for a week or two. That is also quite nice

On the other hand, I do not know if he is satisfied with me as a roommate. I am very quiet, very tidy.. but maybe he is expecting more communication. No idea. For me this is ideal ; I do not have to speak when I want to be alone, but I still have a kind of company not to be completely isolated.

I've had some bad experiences.. one that threatened to break my fingers because I moved his coffee pot.. that one didn't pay rent and behaved as though the living room were his bedroom. Horrible guy. He whined and said that he couldn't afford to pay rent, but he was always renting cars.. even though Kris would let him borrow his car. Only way we got him out was to get a peace order. (Apparently the fact that verbal threats are "not a crime" only means that they can't put someone in jail for making threats. They CAN make someone who makes threats stay the hell away from you!)

We had three recently, although two (the couple) just left. The girl was pregnant, so they needed to get their own place. I was sad to see them go. They were nice, pretty quiet, gamers. I was always afraid they were gonna hate me for not talking and stuff, but they didn't seem to. (of course I still was/am traumatized by the psycho dude.)

The other one we have now is cool, too. He's got a condo he's moving into, he was just renting a room here because he had to move quickly for work. He puts things in the washer/drier that really shouldn't go into normal residential machines, but he doesn't get pissed when I move the huge blanket out of the drier and hang it up to dry.. I'll assume that if he killed the washer by doing that, he'd replace it.. he's generally pretty responsible, I think. He feeds the cat even when the cat has already eaten, but I blame the cat for bullying him.. lol. Overall, good roommate.

Nervous about what kind of people we'll end up with next.

I voted "not sure"..There has only been a brief period of time where I lived completely alone...and that had both charm, and difficulty...I made a decision to attempt to leave home when I was 19..and my first roommates were obnoxious NT best friends and co-workers. One was ok..but the dominant one..lied and stole and had a disgruntled pet iguana who liked to hang on the clothes in my closet and poop on my bed sheets...So the nicer one followed her lead. They kicked me out because I wasn't cool enough (and weird), and they thought I should be paying more rent.
I don't like roommates who are space-invaders and energy drainers, or who are super-picky I much prefer roommates who are friends...and understand my personality and whatnot...though that can be hard to come by. I have had quite a few roommate experiences..but I am not gonna list them all right now.

I've had excellent roommates, but HORRIBLE floormates. I had to move off campus, I just couldn't deal with it. The people I lived with though were lovely.

I've lost friends after moving in with them. I have alot of set ways that i like things done. So does everyone else, it seems. I have hard time living with people. Right now I live with my boyfriend and a roomate, and sometimes things just drive me crazy.

I've had mixed experience. The first time I had roommates, I moved in with 2 guys who were already friends so it was always awkward since I was the odd one out and I was too quiet for them. The second time, I moved in with one person who I didn't initially know, and at that time I think maybe my character judgment improved or maybe it was luck, but we got along well and hung out sometimes.

Overall, good.

First one. We got along okay, but we were very similar in temperament. He found another roommate and moved out. A guy I met on the first day a couple doors down wasn't getting along well with his roommate, and he moved in with me. For the most part, we stayed together throughout college. I had a semester with another guy who was nice but he had chronic foot odor...the kind banned by the Geneva Convention. I was in a house with 5 other guys, and the roommate I got along with was one of the five.

My experience was a disaster.

He and/or his girlfriend were noisy and I couldn't get any sleep some nights, and he downloaded porn on my computer.

I've had bad experiences, since my flatmates have all seemed to be of the drinking, partying, drug-taking and noise-making bent whereas I'm a lot more quiet and restrained (so I probably seemed terribly boring to them).

Now I live alone, which means my home is a lot tidier and I get to go to bed at reasonable hours.

They seem nice, but they're a bit too normal for the likes of me