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04 Jun 2009, 10:00 pm

My Cousin is getting married on Saturday. I'm worried the reception is going to be very stressful for me as I don't know any of her friends or any of the family of the groom.



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04 Jun 2009, 11:08 pm

Imagine what it will be like for me. At my wedding there will be nearly a hundred people I don't know...at my OWN reception!

I'm going to formulate a few stereotyped polite, gracious phrases and say them all day. and excuse myself a lot.

As long as you're not the bride or the groom, I don't think it matters if you know anyone or not, does it?


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04 Jun 2009, 11:10 pm

Being around people I don't know I get very anxious - enough I'm dizzy to the point I feel like passing out and nauseous to the point I feel I'll throw up.



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04 Jun 2009, 11:15 pm

I almost feel the same way, especially when they sit me with people I don't know, even though it might be a family wedding. Just concentrate on the gorgeous flower arrangements, the ambiance, forget the people, just imagine you're there alone. Maybe scope out someone that looks sweet, and go up and introduce yourself? Maybe it's a bit brave to do, but if you're really nervous, it helps to at least have someone to talk to there. Good luck! <3



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04 Jun 2009, 11:17 pm

Pretend no one's around? You could be perfectly happy sitting on your own staring into a cup of tea. Unless you really value your cousin's opinion of you or you're part of the bridal party or something.

Maybe I just can't picture what the situation would be. If I get that anxious I am learning to just withdraw for a while. Hide out in the toilets or something. It works for me. They don't miss me while i'm gone.


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04 Jun 2009, 11:20 pm

Unless you mean like a sit down eat food reception.

In that case just do whatever you usually do when you're dragged to a family gathering you don't want to be at. Or have you not had much practice at that?

When I was young I used to bring out a pen and pad of paper to write/draw, doodle on the napkins, examine the plate designs, whatever. Now I just sit and pretend to look interested. if someone asks me a question I just smile slightly in response, say something generic. That sort of thing. It's less stressful if you're not actually engaging in the conversation (even if you look like you are).


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06 Jun 2009, 12:34 pm

I'll be leaving for it within half an hour. I'm just hoping they don't do those stupid games the DJ's make everyone do (which even most NT's don't like.) If they do, I'll pick that time to step out for a beer.



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06 Jun 2009, 1:52 pm

you mean you haven't had any beers yet??!

you can still have a few shots of tequilla, 30 minutes is a lot of time. believe me, it's going to make the evening much more bearable :P


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06 Jun 2009, 8:35 pm

Well, it wasn't that crowded and half the people I knew (the photographer was a total babe, too!)
It was outside and doing stuff outside isn't too comfortable to me - also the wedding itself was in a church and religious (I'm a staunch atheist.) I did get pretty hammered. Hell, the beer was free - and I had 2 mixed drinks.



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06 Jun 2009, 8:57 pm

I've got a wedding in 2 weeks that is racking my nerves right now =P.
But that it is going to be outside is comforting me. The sound too many people talking is made worse by the reverberations of interior spaces. It's not so bad when outside. And it is going to be on a bird sanctuary in a wild life preserve which should be fun. I'm hoping after the ceremony I can sneak off and get some peace and quit.


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07 Jun 2009, 3:19 am

willa wrote:
I've got a wedding in 2 weeks that is racking my nerves right now =P.



1. *caugh* *caugh* "I am soooo ill, i cannot drop by"

2. Earplugs + walk around and nod and smile at people who adress you.

3. The more serious option: Be honest and tell them that social events freak you out and you want to "be there, but not in it" and be asked to be placed on the side just a bit outside the main group of people.


I have never been to a wedding in my life, but if i went i would have done nr 3.


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29 Sep 2009, 9:00 am

PrincessMR1899 wrote:
I almost feel the same way, especially when they sit me with people I don't know, even though it might be a family wedding. Just concentrate on the gorgeous flower arrangements, the ambiance, forget the people, just imagine you're there alone. Maybe scope out someone that looks sweet, and go up and introduce yourself? Maybe it's a bit brave to do, but if you're really nervous, it helps to at least have someone to talk to there. Good luck! <3


At the last wedding I attended, I became kind of depressed, because most of the other people were either much older or younger than me or they were couples who were just talking with eachother... it was impossible to find anyone to connect to... so I just ate a lot of cake and felt guilty for that too... ;-)



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29 Sep 2009, 9:06 pm

I hate weddings. For one thing, I'm bored to death. Everyone is either talking or dancing, neither are activities I enjoy. So I go from being bored, to being depressed knowing I can't be happy at those kinds of events, then, I get angry about it.



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29 Sep 2009, 10:24 pm

That's strange, you have no name. How did you do that? How can you post without a name?



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01 Oct 2009, 1:24 pm

With regards to attending any wedding, the above subject is my response. I enjoy the trees, the mountains, the geology, the highways and signs in S.W. Oregon and Northern California.
With natural beauty of where I live and visit, I do not need to attend any wedding, or its social connections.
Avoid the "homo sapien" crowds; enjoy the birds, the wildlife, the many species of trees and shrubs, and the
wonderful scenery of my region. I am connected to nature, not a group of party or "greek" members, who enjoy
this type of social engagement.
I also read science and technical stories. Also, I am enjoying the P.B.S. series on the origin and creation of our
national parks currently on the television. regards, Siskiyou.