Advice for aspies who want to meet people!

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When someone addresses you, at least nod. You don't have to be their best friend, but make an effort to acknowledge someone.

If you're surfing the web in public or at school, and someone you know approaches you to say hi, look up from your effin laptop, or at least say something. Hoping they'll disappear might come across as rude, and most definitely as weird.

If someone you know comes into a social setting, acknowledge them- if you understand the language used here in this post, "hello" works, or a brief "hey" will suffice.

I hate to say it, but there's more to life than anime/video games/ sci fi channel. Broaden your horizons a little. If someone initiates a conversation that doesn't limit itself to said topics, don't cop an attitude and act offended that somebody has a life outside of your subculture.

If most of this advice seems a little obvious, you ain't the aspie demographic I had in mind. Peace.

I learned that a brief smile and momentary eye contact go a long way. Ironically for me it wasn't so much to draw people towards me but to assure them I wasn't hostile. That perception can bring you a lot of trouble. This is something I tell my son. He doesn't understand that when a peer says hello to him and he doesn't respond the other person feels insulted and will often react very negatively. So I agree with you Greshym_Shorkan it doesn't cost you anything and it makes your life a lot smoother. If I don't want to get involved in conversation I just whiz by like I'm in hurry. I'm of the hermit clan.

Well, it sounds like you at least have some insight.

lol I used to not acknowledge people, but only because I was so in my head all the time. I would think "Hi" and not realize that I didn't actually say it until after the moment had passed.

I used to have problems like this. Now I just automatically say hi, smile and make eye contact to greet people, just like a routine even though I don't understand it and don't particularly like eye contact. And then when someone asks how I am I just say fine how are you. If it's someone I particularly like I'll usually be thinking of something we have in common to talk about while the ritual above is going on.