Social Isolation

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Well, I'm going to an early college thing, where you go to college your junior year of highschool and take all college courses, plus live in the college dorms. For me, it sounded like a dream come true. I thought surely only smart people and nerds could get into this kind of thing (I fit into the categories listed) and was super excited when I got accepted. However, I came and found out that, no, you do not have to be smart to get into the program. In fact, some of the people here are really, REALLY stupid. I can't fathom how they made it... unless there was a shortage of people applying. So, as a result, I did not fit in well. I tried but after going to the movies one time, it all fell apart (we watched a movie that had bare breasts in the frame constantly. I covered my eyes and walked out halfway through it, supremely nervous as to how they would think of me for walking out. I hoped that, since they were Christians like me and actively talked about God, they would ignore it, at the least. However, I was ridiculed for this. I eventually made a facebook as a way to communicate and socialize, but they made fun of me there too. The ringleader of the bullies was a wee little asian guy with undiagnosed little man syndrome. I pointed this out [I thought it was a clever retaliation] and of course it made things worse). I cannot go home on the weekends, and I've never felt so alone. It is not as bad during the week, when I have some people to talk to, but during the weekend, I am completely isolated. This wouldn't be to bad, except for the room next to me is like the party room, so I constantly here them having fun (sometimes till 2 in the morning >.<)... I am confused and I don't know what to do to cure my loneliness...

Do what you love to do, and find people who share your passion for doing it. That's really the only way to find and build stable, substantial friendships.

My first year of college (at age 17) was very similar to your experience, except it was in the 1980s, so no Facebook or other Web communities or friends. I had one friend, someone I knew from high school, met a few people I sort of liked, and reverted to my old outlet for frustration: martial arts. I found a local school that I could afford, took classes there, and though I met only one person I could relate to, at least I had a place where I was welcomed and respected.

I made a new friend during second year, when I started Japanese studies (I've got a gift for languages, so that was something I wanted to do). This was the teaching assistant for the class, who once a week had a TA session for conversation practice. I was the only person to show up, and the TA was a pleasant, quiet, gentle woman who enjoyed Japanese and language learning immensely. That worked out well.

Loneliness is not something I experience, however. I'd rather be alone, on my own, left alone, and doing what I love to do uninterrupted (except by cats). So I hope others can add suggestions as to how to cure your loneliness.