Saying the wrong thing

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I attend a mainstream english class and I am starting to want to interact more with my peers. In the specialist school which I attend most of the time people accept me as I am and I have friends. But I've discovered that mainstream schools don't generally allow me to be me. Now, however, I am starting to want to throw caution to the wind and start being myself in the mainstream class, too. But every time I do I end up saying the wrong thing at the wrong time, or making social errors. It's really irritating. If I don't talk, I come across as rude or antisocial, and if i do talk, I come across as strange and stupid. Don't really know how to deal with this one.

Rats. I was hoping you were going to tell us how you either deal with saying the wrong thing, or keep from saying the wrong thing.

I don't have any answers for you. In my case, I've learned that I tend to say too much rather than too little, so I'm trying to keep my mouth shut more.

It's been a long time since I've been in school. But, in general, there's a balance between being oneself, and fitting in. Although, it's easier to find that balance when you can choose your social environment.

I keep my mouth shut too, now, because i know people's reactions to me. But sometimes I just get a bit sick of being silent, especially when people are having a funny or interesting conversation and I want to join in.

Mysty, thank you for your advice. I am wondering how it is possible to find that balance? Also, how exactly does a person "fit in" if it doesn't come naturally?

Hi there rosiemaphone,
I feel for you, I am not at school but social situations are just a nightmare, except with my friend who's husband and son's have aspergers....I can say what I think and she doesn't take offence....she says....oh, thats just a "verticalmum" thing..
Busting to know how to just "fit in" its damn hard,
Take care,
Verticalmum.