stuffed up and lost friends

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Hi there, well about 8 months ago My son and I left my husband, he has drug, alcohol problems and I my son and I also felt threatened by him and his behaviour.
The way I went about it was probably not the best, but at the time I panicked and just fled.....
So as a result I have lost most of my friends as they have just automaticly taken my husbands side....they don't know about aspergers....I am being assesed in 2 weeks time. I just feel increadably alone at the moment, no one understands, sometimes I don't understand either about the way I did what I did and the difficulty I have with everyday life and not knowing what to say or do alot of the time.....i just want to run and hide and never open my stupid mouth again.....
UGGGG,
Thanks,
Verticalmum.

Hi there, welcome home! Hope you nestle into the community here.

Hi sinsboldly,
Thank you, looking for a place where people understand or can appreciate my lack of understanding.
Thanks for the welcome.

With friends like that, who needs enemies?

But seriously though, my mom's fled my dad(Religious zealot), and she's better off for it.

Odd as it may sound, the best thing to do right now is accept the past, it's set in stone, and not fuss over the present.

My mom hasn't, and within X years time(ten, but it was already the way i'm about to describe in two) she had like a dozen really close friends, each with specific knowledge and stuff and problems and fun. My mom's good with computers and legal forms. Ooh yes. So one friend's a teacher, had a grown-up son, could take care of us a bit, another had taxl issues but had my mom's taste when it came to going out...

I'm saying, in your situation, a lot of new people will be in your life. I can bet your bum AND mine that most of them are gonna be really fun.

Oh, and as a kid of a flee-er mom... Decisive action>Indecision.

Ya did good. Don't feel bad over it, and let your social life re-grow.

thanks LivingOutsideTheBox,
yeah, well they are getting one side and don't know the crap we went through everyday before we left.

I know I did the right thing for our son's sake, and for mine too.
There is a bit of a problem with making new friends, its something I find very hard, but vital for my sons development, he has a right to have friends, even if his mum is a social misfit..
But thank you for your encouragment.
Verticalmum.

I went through that, a long while back, fleeing an abusive, alcoholic drug abusing sot, with an infant daughter. None of my "friends" seemed to understand my decision, but most of them were trapped in abusive relationships anyway, so go figure. I sort of went through another "friend purge," when I got sick with a chronic illness. Since my illness doesn't show, these current friends soon learned to stop asking me out for movies, over for tea, etc. Now, I have true gems for friends. I have learned to be very choosy with people who do not "get" me. Having a few gems beats loads of fair weather friends, any day.

Hi hartzofspace,
Thanks for your support, yeah, I also have a chronic illness that is not really visable.
I just don't have a clue who is a good person and who isn't, no judgement abbilities. I have 2 gems of friends.
Thanks again,
Verticalmum.

see, nestling in already!

thanks for the welcomes sinsboldly.