Seeing an ex friend

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Back in last year, one of my friends started showing a lack of interest in getting together. For instance, we went on saw the movie, 'Twilight,' and he came with us. However, he wanted to attend another movie so I suggested him going to that movie alone. Instead, he came with us and pitched an attitude with us the whole time and then abruptly left the mall after the movie was over.
In January, I asked him what was on his mind and why he was avoiding us. His response was that he was liked us and everything but he chose some NT friends over everyone else. (He is also Asperger's). He then told me that he didn't want to hang out as much because he had chosen the new friends. He also told me not to consider writing him or calling him as much due to the new friends. In the end of his e-mail, he said "You can't choose your family but you can choose your friends and that's exactly what I am doing."

I mean, I have to face seeing him tomorrow at an Autism function and I am really nervous. What should I do?

Smile politely if you see him, and move on to doing something else.
His choice, his loss.

Be polite, but brief. Then, ignore him. After all, he made his choices. And it's not as if you did anything wrong! It may be awkward, but just keep telling yourself that he has a right to choose who he hangs out with. And, you have a right to ignore him, if that makes you more comfortable.

He doesn't sound like much of a loss. Yeah, I agree with others here; hang out with a different crowd and if you come face to face, just say 'hi'.

Thanks for the advice. However, he was also very flaky and said one thing and did another most of the time. For instance, before he made it clear that he didn't want to hang out and just be cordial, he made a commitment with me to see a movie with a few other friends. However, when he found out that those friends were people he didn't like, it was no movie for him. He also didn't tell me why over the phone and just said that things were too complicated to explain.

I mean, another friend of mine picked up that he wasn't interested in hanging out anymore by his body language and his excuses.